Ask if I should help, or just help
My friend was putting up a fence. She sometimes likes to do things her own way. I asked if she wanted any help. She said absolutely not. I was surprised and asked if she really said no. She said no again. I said I would be eating dinner and if she changed her mind to just let me know. As soon as I finished I went out to see if I could help. She had stopped working and was having a cigarette with her tenant. I stood there but they ignored me so I left. Later she was angry and said I showed a lack of character by asking if she needed help. Instead of just going out and starting to help.
Should I have just started helping? Was I wrong to ask and then believe her when she said no?