Birthday Wishes

by Diane
(USA)

Hi! I am raising my niece who lost her mom when she was 5. She has tried calling me mommy but its not that I didn't want her to its just I didn't know how to approach it. she calls me Tete (aunt in Serbian) I do not ever want her to think for 1 minute I do not love her any less! Tomorrow she will be 8! I hope and pray you get this and can help me write something in her birthday card as Im lost for words! Thank you, Di

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by: Ms P Etiquette

Diane,​

​I cannot reply to you directly, unfortunately. Please allow your neice to address you as she wants. Doing so is most likely a comfort to her. All children want someone to call mommy and she loves you enough to want it to be you. Give it a try. She knows you are her auntie, however, mommy is so reassuring!

Ms. Practical Etiquette​

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by: Anonymous

Are you afraid that your niece will think you are trying to replace her mother? Let her know often that her mother would be proud of her and love her. Now, you are raising her and loving her like a mother. If she wants to call you Mom, that's okay, and if she wants to call you Aunt, that's okay too. The important thing is that she knows you love her.

What to write? Something in your voice like this:

To my darling girl - I am so sorry that your mom and dad are not here to see how smart and wonderful you are and how you are growing. I am also so glad that I get to be the one to love you now and help you grow to be the best person you can be. I am always here for you. I love you.

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