Gift to Bride & Groom to Be
by Jilted Co-Worker
A co-worker of mine was slated to get married and in support of her wedding, our staff decided to throw her and her husband-to-be a party/shower. We bought food, cupcakes, decorations, party games and signed a beautiful card enclosed with a nice sum of money. I even gave extra to round out the figure, as I often do when the opportunity presents itself.
I am a giver by nature and like to give within my means whenever possible.
Fast forward to several weeks before the wedding. I was verbally told months before that I was invited and would receive an invitation. The invitation never came, so I inquired within 2 week window before her wedding to confirm. She gave me a verbal confirmation and apologized for not sending me a formal invite. I followed with asking her to please send me the details to include address etc. when time permitted.
Approximately 3 days before her wedding, I checked her registry and purchased a beautiful wall mirror to represent the reflection of their new lives together. I had the gift sent directly to their home.
As I was making my way to attend the wedding, I got a strange feeling that something wasn't right, so I checked social media.... the bride had noted that she had forgotten her veil and had to rush to purchase before the ceremony. The ceremony would have begun within the hour, so I was worried that she would be severely late. So instead of rushing to the venue, I followed up with a few of my co-workers to check on whether they had arrived to the venue or not. I
received notice that the venue was closed and there was no sign of a wedding for that day. They were confused and very taken-aback on the lack of communication and inconvenience.
Later it was found out through the grapevine that things were up in the air with them and several excuses were made as to why the wedding did not take place. Several months have gone by and my now ex co-worker has not made any effort to apologize, nor has she made an effort to return gifts... let alone thank everyone for even giving them in the first place.
I honestly could not stomach the level of disrespect I felt and made it a point to email her to see where her head and heart were post wedding fiasco. I simply asked if she received my wedding gift and if their were plans to wed in the near future. Response - yes I did, thank you. We are trying to move forward, please pray for us. Presently they are no longer together and NO sign of marriage. Even though I feel used, I tried to put myself in her shoes and swallow my pride. How devastating things must have been... how embarrassed she must have felt.
Was I wrong for emailing her the questions that circled in my head? I needed some form of closure. I must say the experience, put a bad taste in my mouth but it has not dampened my giving. Is there an appropriate way to inquire about touchy situations? Should I have even inquired? Mind you I never heard from her again, not even as an associate or friend.....