How to tell someone that they are hurting your feelings?

by Emotional
(Veggieville)



Hello,

I am a dedicated Vegetarian, since the age of 10, I am now in my 20's & it seems that many people think it okay to mock me during get togethers, even at my house, This makes me feel hurt & upset at their disrespect & disregard for my morals.

What is the best way to tell these people that they are being rude, hurtful & intolerant?

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Sometimes, you have to be direct
by: Miss P Etiquette

Dear Emotional from Veggieville

There is never a "good way" to point out the shortcomings of others. Most people already know when they are being offensive, having consciously chosen to behave this way.

In general it is rude to comment on someone's preferred diet just as it is rude to comment on a person's physical oddities. Unfortunately, there will always be those who disregard these civilities. And being different from your fellows can create their discomfort. Changing friends is easier than changing a friend's bad manners.

However, I suggest you take responsibility for your response to their thoughtless comments. You do have control over your own feelings whether you realize that or not. As a committed vegetarian, do you really need the approval of others to feel good about your decision? If you respect your judgement regarding your dietary choices, then the opinion of others has no effect. To the contrary, practice being light about it, realizing the source of the comments. The more you force yourself to be aware that these are your choices, the better you will feel about yourself and the less import other opinions will carry.

Having the courage to leave your peers' choices behind you is extraordinary for such a young person. Be true to yourself.

Ms Practical Etiquette

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