Is it polite to "celebrate" the anniversary of the date a parent who almost died?

by Mary Klinkam Swenter
(Libby, Montana, USA)

My husband almost died two years ago. I performed CPR and was at his side throughout the most frightening and horrendous time of our life. March 25th is the day he almost left me. His daughter called tonight to tell him she was thinking about him on this date. It's been, so far, two years of therapy, sleepless nights, 911 calls, addressing fears, making "decisions" and daily concern on his part. I am sorry but isn't it poor etiquette to mark this macabre "anniversary"? My husband did not focus on today as an "anniversary" nor did I. Why bring up fears?

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by: Ms P Etiquette

Dear Mary,

I am so sorry for this great challenge you face in your life. I can only imagine how difficult this is for you and your husband.

Re-reading your question, I cannot find any description of an anniversary​ ​by your step daughter. Her statement is she is thinking about him today. She may be feeling gratitude that he is still alive and happy for the part you played in his rescue. Whatever she sees is her reason to celebrate. I see nothing unmannerly about this. She isn't experiencing your trials, but then she isn't his wife, she is his daughter. ​​Looking​ at the situation with this perspective may even give your spirit a little lift.

Please take care of yourself, Mary.
Ms. Practical Etiquette​

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