Should I pay for a guest of a guest that someone else invited to dinner I'm paying for at a restaurant?

by Ellen Judson
(Phoenix, AZ)

I am taking my daughter and granddaughter out to dinner. My daughter invited my nephew (her cousin) to go along. I agreed to it and to pay for him also. Then she told me he asked if he could bring a guest. I told her to tell him "no" as I did not want to buy dinner for a complete stranger when it wasn't my idea to invite the nephew in the first place. I had my daughter tell him that it was family only. What was the correct way to handle this? Should I have accepted his friend as a guest also and paid for it? It seems rather presumptuous to me that he would even ask to bring him.

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Dinner Invitation
by: Ms P Etiquette

Ellen,

It is impolite for anyone who is an invitee to ask others to join the event without express permission from the host. Pushing the host to then include a stranger in a family affair hosted in a restaurant is inappropriate and rude. You have no obligation to include anyone other than those you chose.

Ms. Practical Etiquette

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