Acknowledging Value of Handwritten Thank You Notes

by Jean
(Waterloo WI)

I surprised my 14 nieces and nephews who are all young adults with a gift of $100 each this past Christmas. All expressed thanks - even the one who is a very high earner. Four took the extra step of sending a handwritten thank you note. Is there a reasonable way to make this an opportunity to show them the value of writing a note? I plan to give them $100 again next Christmas. Would it be ok to give the note writers an extra $5 or $10 and make a brief mention of it at our family Christmas gathering?

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Thank You Notes
by: Ms P Etiquette


If you were their teacher, you could give them gold stars for a job well done. However, each received a gift from you, not instructions on thank you notes.​ I assume your gifts were given from your heart and the expressions of gratitude were sincere, whether written or oral. I think everyone did their job very well. Handwritten notes are not necessarily more sincere than oral thanks. Good manners dictates that we accept gifts and gratitude graciously.

Thank you for your interesting question, Jean.

Ms. Practical Etiquette

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