Ask dad not to bring new gf to cousin's wedding?
by Jessica H
(Vancouver, Canada )
My cousin (my dad's brother's daughter) is about to get married! I am fairly close to her, her sister and my other cousins on my dad's side that will be in attendance. However, my parents are recently divorced (finalized this year, but have been seperated for 5 years) and I have not spoken to my dad in over 2 years as a result of terrible, damaging things he has said and done to me and my brother through this process. I would very much like to go to the wedding, and think that I could be civil with my dad with some advance conversation, however the problem is that he has a girlfriend of 2 years that he would bring, which I am not prepared to deal with given the shaky ground we are already on. Would it be fair for me to ask my dad not to bring his girlfriend to the wedding? I would really like to be there for my cousin, and to see all of the rest of my family, however do not think I can mentally handle dealing with/meeting "the other woman" from my parents marriage at this particular event, having to introduce her to my kids, etc etc ... Especially when my dad and I are barely on speaking terms. Advice!