Attend cousins graduation or daughters highschool best friends wedding?

by Candy

Our daughter is graduating from college in May and my sister(Aunt) just informed me that her family will not be attending because her daughter's high school best friend is getting married. My husband and I have made every effort to attend all three of her children's high school and college graduations. We even had to divide and conquer one year so that we were there to support two of her kids at their ceremonies. I am hurt and disappointed and I know my daughter will be too when she finds out her closest cousins will be going to an old high school friends wedding instead of her college graduation ceremony. How do I handle this?

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by: Ms P Etiquette

Hello Candy,

​Your disappointment is understandable. Your sister has let you down. It is not in your power to change her response, however, you can practice the etiquette we discuss in this columnby refraining from causing discomfort and guilt. Instead, simply let her know in a matter of fact tone, that you are disappointed the family will not be together for your dear daughter's graduation. She will know her behavior hurt her niece and her sister. Perhaps she will be more considerate the next time. Just DO NOT take her actions personally, please.

Ms Practical Etiquette

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by: Anonymous

In my opinion, attending ones wedding is more important. Graduation ceremonies are more for immediate family. Many times people have to drive far to get there. When you have the graduation party, then that is when you invite cousins.

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