Boyfriend's Ex-Girlfriend sends new girlfriend card of sympathy following the death of new girlfriend's ex

by Patricia T
(Fairfax, Virginia)

My ex-fiance and boyfriend of more than 23 years recently died. The man I am now seeing (for about a year) has an ex-girlfriend of 20 years or so. They are in communication often over business dealings. She lives in another state several hundred miles away. She and I have never met, nor spoken to each other.She's 69 years old; and I am the new young-chic of merely 65.

He shared the news of my ex dying with her. She sent me a sympathy card.

I think it's weird and in poor taste. I don't know how to, or if I should send her a response.

Any etiquette suggestions are welcome.

Thank you.

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Sympathy Card
by: Ms P Etiquette

Dear Patricia,

My condolences to you for your loss.

In sending a sympathy card, she was only trying to be nice. Some people feel for others and react as such when learning of a loss. Perhaps due to your mutual connection, she felt it was the right thing to do. I simple card of thanks would be all that is necessary.

Ms. Practical Etiquette

would like ring, or some other personal item to designate we are a couple.
by: Anonymous

Four yrs ago, the man in my life asked me if I would promise to stay with him in a committed relationship for the rest of our lives.

I thought that after sufficient time, (his 1st and only wife had been deceased just 2 yrs.) we would discuss marriage.

He "loves me" but is "afraid to marry again"...I would like to have something to show we are a legitimate couple. Other women approach him thinking he is available and this bothers me.

Just because he is not interested, doesn't mean he isn't fair game.

Both my husbands are deceased and I've had two relationships in between. All four men gave me a ring.

Just leave it alone? We're both past 70.

Just Leave it Alone
by: Ms P Etiquette

There is no sense pushing it, as it will only drive him away. Stay patient and he will come around.

Ms. Practical Etiquette

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