Bridal shower (given by aunt in home state)
My daughter and fiancee are having already large (300) wedding in upstate NY, they both live in NYC. The groom is paying for most of the wedding events.
However, we have an aunt (will be attending wedding) and several friends (parents friends not invited to wedding) that want to hold a "shower" or "celebration" in hometown in Florida.
Is this appropriate if they will not be invited to the wedding (due to size, distance, and cost)?