Can I ask for a gift?

by Benny Hart
(Dorr township Allegan county Michigan)

My husband will be turning 50 shortly. He always remembers other people's birthdays and anniversaries with gifts and cards. However rarely has a friend returned a gift to him. His favorite restaurant is a bit pricey with entrees beginning at $28. I would like to invite his friends to have dinner with us, my treat, providing they give a small modest gift.

1) is this out of the question to ask without sounding like I'm holding invite hostage.

Or 2) is this just a bad idea all together?

Shame on me for saying so but I chose a restaurant venue for his party because if a free meal is involved I know the people invited will definitely show up.

Sincerely beffuttled

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Requesting Gifts
by: Ms P Etiquette

Hi Benny,

Understanding your desire to have a nice birthday celebration for your husband is very nice, but requiring a gift is not something you can do. The decision to gift is really up to the gift-giver. Based on your comments, it would seem that the idea of a gift may not occur to some of the intended guest, but requiring a gift would breach the rules of etiquette.

Enjoy your husband's 50th!

Ms. Practical Etiquette

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