Can I ask for cash on a birthday invite?
by Older sister
(Newbury Park CA)
My dear sister is turning 60 this year and I want to have a surprise birthday party for her. I am paying for the venue and food. Barbara has lost her husband a year ago and has recently lost her job at a Christian book store. Needless to say she could use money instead of gifts. Her church friends put together cash trees, but since I am not having her celebration at the church I would like to ask for ten dollars in a card for her instead. She lives paycheck to paycheck. How do I do this without feeling like it is in poor taste?
I am planning on inviting 80 guests. I am torn and almost thinking that giving her the 3k instead of having a party would serve her better. Yet I want to celebrate her and overwhelm her with our love.
Any advice would help, thank you!