First Communion

by Elizabeth
(New york )

My niece's daughter is doing First Communion. I have 3 sons. My oldest was sent a separate invite,and he's bringing his girlfriend. When I was replying That my youngestson was going to bring his girlfriend, my niece stated that she had not invited the other cousins girlfriends. I was offended by her reply, since she's also my first niece and goddaughter. I'm I wrong in wanting to include the new girlfriend in this party? . It is not an only family event. Friends family and business associates are also invited.

What should I do?

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First Communion RSVP
by: Ms P Etiquette

Hello Elizabeth,

From your description of events, it appears that your oldest son received his own invitation that included a guest. You received your own invitation that may have been "Elizabeth and family" so you sent your RSVP for yourself and your younger sons. Unless the invitation said Elizabeth, Family & Guests, your insisting "other guests" be included is inappropriate. This is your niece's decision. It is rude to ask a host to include extra guests since this will either force the host to agree against their will or will create embarrassment and discomfort for the host. To be the cause of either of these situations is very poor etiquette. I doubt the decision was personally directed at your children since other young people have not been allowed to bring their friends. I sure hope this helps, so you are able to share in the joy of the occasion.

Ms. Practical Etiquette

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