Has Grad Gift for Aquaintance Twins

by Susan
(Cape May, NJ)

I have an acquaintance friend I've known for one year. She is one of a group of 6 women who lunch together weekly after a larger club meeting. We do birthday dinners also. A few times a year we hit a museum, the beach, or some other event. I have never been to her home or met her children. Last week I received an email invite to their (twins) high school graduation party being held at this friend's home. I may have a scheduling conflict on that date so this creates two conundrums. Having never met these graduates, if I go am I expected to provide a gift? Am I expected to provide a gift if I am unable to attend? One online source reports that if one does not attend the party one may send a card (no gift) to the graduate wishing them well. This is strange considering I've not met the graduate(s). The friend can be money centered and reports she does well. I, on the other hand, am not financially well off and have had some difficult times. Please advise!

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by: Ms PracticalEtiquette


There is no obligation to attend or give a gift. You may send a card to the mother, wishing the twins congratulations. Write a personal note with kind words and good wishes. That is totally appropriate.

Ms. Practical Etiquette

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