How much is the girlfriend expected to pay for the boyfriend's daughter's graduation?
Dear Miss Manners,
I'm happily living with my boyfriend for two years. I make more money then he; however he does not make a bad wage. His daughter, with whom he is very close, is graduating from college. I see her roughly every 4 months when she visits, but she and I do not have a relationship between those visits. Of course, she and her father talk almost daily. She's a wonderful young woman and I'm very proud of her. It's just that she and I have not forged a real "family" relationship or bond. She's my loving boyfriend's daughter.
My question- my boyfriend wishes to give her daughter a relatively large sum of money for graduation and he's asked me to split this cost with him. I feel as though the right contribution for me is $100-$150 (which I believe is generous), but any more is not my duty or position. I'm not her mother and we only speak when she travels to see her father at our house.
What is the right thing to do in this circumstance?
Why am I being asked to pay as a mom ... when I'm not a mom?