Is it okay not to invite my brother's ex wife?

My sister in law divorced my brother after 35 years of marriage. It was devastating to him. But now he is happily remarried and my ex SIL is still single. My daughter is getting married. My ex SIL has been invited to other family weddings and RSVP's her yes immediately. I think that my current SIL would enjoy herself much more if the ex was not at the wedding. My ex SIL seems to want everything to be the same minus my brother for a husband. We see this ex SIL at other family functions and it is awkward for my brother's new wife. Should my brother's ex wife expect to be invited to my daughter's wedding? My thought is that she left my brother...she should expect things will be different as far as inclusion at family events, especially now that my brother is remarried. The relationship with the ex's is cordial and my ex SIL is still close to several family members.

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Wedding Invitations
by: Ms P Etiquette

A central rule of etiquette when planning or attending a gathering is: "Do nothing that will make your guests or other attendees daughter feel close to the ex SIL? Does your brother have an opinion? These are the two people with the most to risk by the choice of wedding uncomfortable.​" Sometimes one simply has to act as if all is fine so others are not stressed. In this situation, it seems that no matter which option you choose, someone will be unhappy, the ex or the current sister in law. Does your guest. My guess is you invite the current Mrs. only but please check this out with the participants I've mentioned. I hope it is a lovely wedding.

Ms. Practical Etiquette

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