Is it rude that my mother I. Law addressed a thank you to just my husband

by Cindy
(Montrose, NY Westchester )

My husband and I hosted my mother in law for the weekend for her birthday celebration. We made a nice dinner, the kids played with her and we all watched a movie. The next day we took her to a parade before my husband driver her home. She sent a thank you just addressed to my husband. He will also be taking her to the theater on another weekend. I am not going to keep cost down and because we have three children to tend to. Was it rude that she sent a thank you to him and at the end thanked me for shopping and cleaning g the house. I feel upset because I helped to pull off the celebration with my time, money and effort. Those were not just my husbands. I feel that my husband should comment to her that he felt the thank you should have been for us both. He doesn’t need to say much but just continue to communicate that we are a couple and our efforts are joint efforts. Please share you opinion with me.


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Mother in Law Thank you
by: Ms P Etiquette

Dear Cindy,

Technically, she should have addressed the letter to both of you. She did acknowledge your efforts, to an extent, in the letter. Sher would say that she did thank you, even if she did not address the envelope to you. My question to you, is it worth the family strife this could create? That is a question you will need to answer. She did thank you, just did not address the letter to you. She probably did not realize that she caused a slight.

Good luck with your decision.

Ms. Practical Etiquette

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