Kids want parents to meet each other

by Kathy

I have a question about whether it is necessary to meeting my daughters boyfriends parents via a dinner.

My daughter is after us to have a social dinner with her boyfriends parents....we have met them informally at a baptism and dropping her off at their place and have spoken on the phone when the kids did their first trip out of the country together.

They have been dating for four years and both are still living at home and not engaged or anything.

I don't think it's necessary to have a dinner with them. Is that rude?? We don't have anything in common with them and just because the kids are dating does that mean we have to start having thanksgiving, Christmas etc. all as one big family??

Please advise as this is stressing me out. I'm not all that social or comfortable going their or them coming to our place. Not sure why it's stressing me out but it is and I just don't feel it's necessary. The boyfriends mom is more outspoken then I am and it makes me uncomfortable.

Please advice

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Dinner Meeting
by: Ms P Etiquette

Dear Kathy,

Thank you for your question. From an etiquette standpoint, you are not required to meet the boyfriend's parents. From a social standpoint, you are not required as well. Instead of stressing about it, sit down with your daughter and discuss with her why this is so important to her and express your misgivings. Perhaps you will be able to reach a happy middle ground and decide if one night's dinner is worth the misgivings.

Best of luck!
Ms Practical Etiquette

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