Order from menu or pre-select for small b-day luncheon??
(Mountain View, CA)
I'm 100% hosting and paying for a luncheon for 12 for my mother's upcoming 70th birthday. I'm totally fine with guests ordering off the menu--in fact I prefer that as I'm having a hard time with the restaurant's suggested "special menu" limitations--but would this make it seem less special to the guests and event? It's a very close group of individuals, and I'm planning to include some nice quality gift/favor take-home items for each guest, but I'm just not sure if it's considered "proper" to pre-select a special luncheon menu, or just let guests be able to order whatever they want. I can afford them to order anything off the menu at the restaurant I chose, and I believe when one invites, one pays, I do not "charge" guests for their meal!