Should I buy a gift for a friend of a friend I just met?


Dear Miss Practical Manners,

I am 47 years old and recently met a young girl (I'm pretty sure she's in her 20's) at a regular social function that became interested in becoming friends with me. I am friendly with her because I know she likes me which I am not sure why with such a large gap in age difference. Nevertheless, I agreed to have lunch with her one day a few weeks ago. At the next social function she introduces me to a friend of hers around the same age. Now she wants to have lunch again and I agreed to go on Tuesday and she then asked if her friend could come along and again I agreed. Today I received a text message from her saying that Tuesday was also her friends birthday and I could get her a something if I want but no pressure! I am baffled...I just met her friend once and now I am somewhat expected to get her a birthday gift? Second, I felt it was inappropriate for her to suggest for me to get her friend a gift in the first place. I feel my gift giving should be left to my discretion. How should I handle this situation? What should I say to her? Am I wrong in thinking that? Should I buy her a gift after all?

Thank you for your time,
Torn in Texas

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Friend or Fiend?
by: Ms P Etiquette

Dear Torn,

Run in the other direction as fast as you can. Your new “friend” is rude and manipulative. Just say no and do not get involved. She is a taker, not a giver and you are the targeted victim.

Ms Practical Etiquette

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