Should I have expected a gift?

by Cynthia
(Cedar Grove, NJ)

We celebrated my daughters First Holy Communion at a very nice restaurant. My neice (26) works full time came with her boyfriend and did not give a gift. Everyone else did. Should I be upset, because I feel hurt by this. Not event a card?

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by: Ms P Etiquette

Dear Cynthia,

Please do not exhaust your energy in order to be upset with your niece's behavior. It is understandable to expect guests at this type of gathering to bring a card and a lovely surprise if they also give a gift to the person of honor. However, good manners asks us to be happy when our guests took the time out of their busy schedules to help the guest of honor celebrate, at a restaurant in this situation. We can always get more money and choose more greeting cards​, but once the time passes in our lives it is gone. That is the gift your niece brought to the party, the gift of time.

Thanks for your interesting question.

Ms. Practical Etiquette

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