Specifying “gifts or not gifts”

Having a party for my mother-in law in her community room for her 80th. I did not specify “gifts or no gifts” as I feel it’s personal preference. One of the ladies was upset that I hadn’t put that on the invite. I told her to do what she was comfortable with, that it’s personal preference. If I put ‘no gifts’ people would bring them anyway! What is proper etiquette in this instance? Thanks!

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Gift Giving
by: Ms P Etiquette

Thank you for your question.

You are CORRECT! Gift giving is a personal choice. A person should give what they feel appropriate in their heart. It is not a mandatory set of statutes. If a person wishes to give a gift, that is as appropriate as someone giving a card.

Enjoy your mother-in-law's milestone birthday. Happy birthday to her!

Ms. Practical Etiquette

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