Specifying “gifts or not gifts”
Having a party for my mother-in law in her community room for her 80th. I did not specify “gifts or no gifts” as I feel it’s personal preference. One of the ladies was upset that I hadn’t put that on the invite. I told her to do what she was comfortable with, that it’s personal preference. If I put ‘no gifts’ people would bring them anyway! What is proper etiquette in this instance? Thanks!