Step sons girlfriend

by Jodi M.
(Kansas City)

My stepson is 20 and has a girlfriend with a very dramatic, loud and manipulative personality. They've been together a year and a half. We aren't close and my relationship with my stepson has always been rocky. I want to be appropriate at the holidays. We usually give him cash. They now live together. Wondering how to give a gift to her that will obviously be a lot less than his, somehow cash doesn't seem right, and yes these kids do focus on value and how much, vs. It's the thought that matters. Any advice is appreciated.

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by: Ms P Etiquette

Hello Jodi,

Good manners never lets us feel obligated to give any gift, or a gift of certain value, etc. One gives from the heart. Your question gives me the impression that this is a chore more than a gift, therefore let's treat it that way. If he is used to cash and you both want to continue that tradition, give cash. Do not give cash to the girlfriend. Try to think of something she might really like and do not use the amount spent on the gift as a guide. In this case, being thoughtful is more important than the money expended even is she does not know that. It is simply good manners and sets a better precedent for future gift giving.

Ms. Practical Etiquette

Step sons girlfriend
by: Concerned

I agree. There's a gift set according to her fashion sense I had in mind. I was just worried about the $ balance, which in this day and age has obviously gotten out of control. Thank you.

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