Ties don't bind

by Cinderella

When I was 18 my mother remarried. My stepdad came with 3 adult children. For the past 28 years I have spent every Christmas celebrating with this blended family. Two of his children married and have children of their own, which brings me to this event. My stepdad passed away a year ago, and even so...my mother, my children, and I were still invited and celebrated this past Christmas with his children and honestly the only family my children and I have ever known. This summer, my stepfather's oldest grandson is getting married. I was invited, but my children were not. Although I understand limited seating and controlling costs, this rips my heart and has really hurt my feelings. When trying to trim the guest list for the reception, I do not feel that not inviting my children should have even been an option. Yet I was invited and my kids were not. Sone of the other 'guests' children were not, but all of the immediate family and their children were included, except mine.

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Wedding Invitation List
by: Ms P Etiquette

Hi Cinderella,

Wedding guest list are the most difficult decisions a young couple and their parents have to make. Someone will always feel shorted. With the expense of today's wedding, a line must be drawn somewhere. Unfortunately, it was drawn with your children. Not sure if it was an age thing (usually the case) or some other reason, the decision was made. Understanding that you are hurt, I ask you to consider the other side of the table on this one. Attend the wedding and be happy for the newly married couple and move on. Do not allow this to tarnish the family feelings you have. It is not worth destroying it over this perceived slight.

Ms. Practical Etiquette

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