wedding invitation etiquette

by Jean

My son is getting married. He and his bride are inviting their grandparents, aunts and uncles, and cousins. That makes it easy for the guest list - except there are two special situations.

#1: One of the aunts (my husband's sister) married a man with two children from his previous marriage. At the time, his daughter was 13 and lived with him, and his son was grown and on his own (20-something). In the 20 years they've been married, we've never met this step-nephew or heard him mentioned a second time. Will it be rude to invite the step-niece (and her husband) but not the step-nephew?
#2: One of the uncles (my husband's brother) married a woman with a teenage daughter. This step-niece moved out after a year or two. My husband and I met her at the wedding, but haven't seen her since. Our son has never met her. I think she needs to be invited because she is a cousin. Am I right in thinking it would be rude to leave her out?

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Invitations & Blended Families
by: Ms P Etiquette

Hello Jean,

Blended families can present problems at family gatherings with limited seating!

In this case, if you are inviting most family members, consider including invitations to the two mentioned. They may not even accept, but a happier time will be had by all if no one is upset at the perceived exclusion of a relative, no matter how distant.

Good luck and congrats to your son and his bride.

Ms. Practical Etiquette

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