Wedding vs memorial

My father passed away and my mother has scheduled his memorial service to coincide with the annual family reunion over Memorial Day weekend. Arrangements, hotel, etc have been made to attend. Yesterday I received an invitation to my son's wedding for the same weekend. I live in Phoenix, my mom lives in CA and my son lives in Texas. I don't know what to do!

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by: Ms P Etiquette

Dear Perplexed,

I agree, this is quite a problem considering the geography involved. ​ ​One question, was your son aware his wedding was on the same day as the annual family reunion?​

It seems odd to me.

Anyway, the decision is up to you. Since the reunion is well known within the family and your deceased father is to be honored at his memorial service, I vote for attending your family events. It appears you were not consulted about the wedding date before it was set. Therefore, it is very acceptable for you to politely decline the wedding invitation. I do hope you can manage this with an open heart.

I wish you well.

Ms. Practical Etiquette

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