I have a relative that insists on inviting my ex husband to events....saying she is doing it for my children who are adults with children of their own. Says they won't come so he will not be alone. I cannot help that. If my children want to spend the holiday with him that is fine with me. I would understand that - but I do not feel I need to give in and let him be at family functions. I constantly have a knot in my stomach over something that is 10 years old.