Etiquette Questions
Dear Ms Practical Etiquette

Recognizing that no one can anticipate all etiquette questions, it was decided to create our very own PRACTICAL Miss Manners. When I described what I wanted to do to a very good friend, she jumped at the chance. As a matter of fact, every time I spoke to her, she asked me if I was ready yet. Well, I think we are ready ...





I have known Morgan Mason for several years from the Outer Banks Revealed website. Morgan is a Realtor on the Outer Banks of North Carolina and she, along with her partner, J-P Peron, write a column on the Outer Banks realty market. If you ever met Morgan, you would see that she is a very classy person and clearly prescribed to the guidelines of etiquette.

Ms Practical Etiquette So, you are thinking to yourself, "How does that qualify her to be "Miss Manners"?" Well. Maybe it doesn't, but this certainly does:

Prior to moving to the Outer Banks of North Carolina and becoming a realtor, Morgan spent 20 years in corporate executive search which included consulting on etiquette especially for new MBA grads without any training in this area. In addition, she had a separate consulting business that taught executives and their children practical etiquette.

Ok, so now that her credentials have been established, we like to put a bit of a spin on this. Instead of just signing your real name, although you can do that if you like, we would like you to get a little imaginative on what name you use to help describe the situation. You do not even have to use your real town, as long as it helps describe the situation. So, for example, perhaps you are training your children on table manners, but cannot seem to get a point across, maybe you can sign as "Flabbergasted in Florida", or maybe "Eating with Barbarians in Bar Harbor", or, well you get the idea. Note that we will try to keep this light, but Morgan will respond with a serious solution. So, don’t be shy and give our Miss Practical Etiquette a try at your etiquette questions.

Oh, and by the way, there is also a spot where you, the reader can also respond to the question or to add on to Ms Practical Etiquette' response!

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Below you will find questions from other visitors to Miss Practical Manners...

lisa 
I wrote a letter to my daughter and her boyfriend (teenagers) but I don't know how to sign it. It doesn't seem right to sign it "mom" or "mrs....". What …

60th bday 
My husband is a twin, and they are turning 60 in March, My sister inlaw took it upon herself to organize and plan a party for the two of them, without …

is it approrpiate for my boyfriend to give my adult niece a valentine? 
Is it approrpiate for my boyfriend to give my adult niece a valentine?

RSVP 
Is it ok to put a phone number to call for regrets or accepts.

Father in Law's 60th Birthday party 
Hi- I am planning a 60th birthday party for my father in law. He is divorced and only has one son and 3 grandchildren. Recently my father in law started …

Common law husband daughter getting married we live in same town wedding invitation sent by e mail was this proper  
My common law husband daughter getting married he e mailed me the invitation Is this proper

Mother of two adult daughters 
There is going to be a 90th birthday party for my ex mother in law who I love and her son is remarried but we all get along and I am still alone. My …

Granddaughter's wedding and grandparents 50th anniversary party the same weekend? 
My daughter is getting married on a Saturday in April and my in laws are going to be visiting for the entire month. They're 50th wedding anniversary is …

Being judged  
My 15-year-old daughter went to her boyfriends house for dinner for the first time his parents judged her by asking a bunch of questions didn't like her …

My sons wife's brother getting married 
The future bride and and groom getting married 500 miles plus from our home. I have received a save the date card for the wedding. My son insist we must …

Unexpected gift 
My daughters boyfriends parents gave me a gift card at a Christmas eve gathering and that was the first time a met them formally. Not sure how to respond. …

Call or Christmas card 
Hi, My son is living together with his girlfriend for 2 years. Should I have expected to receive a call or Christmas card from his girlfriend? A month …

Christmas Gift for MIL 
Is it aproppiate for a future son in law to gift jewlery to his future mother in law at Christmas?

Confused mother 
Do I include my son's fiancé' name in our Christmas card? I am doing a photo Christmas card with 6 photos and one photo is with my son and his fiancé? …

Wedding Gift when Wedding is Cancelled 
My friend's 42 year old daughter who lives at home with her son doesn't work but collects social services money even though she has never paid a bill for …

Signing a card 
How to sign card to son's girlfriend of 3 years. We like her a lot and get along great.

Sons new girlfriend 
Meeting Xmas morning during gift exchange sons girlfriend. What is an appropriate gift

Christmas Gift For Daughters Boyfriend 
My 35 year old daughter is living with her older boyfriend of less than a year. They do not live in the same state as us but we have met him (& I like …

Holiday guffaw 
My boyfriend offended my sister 3 months ago , that they have resolved . However her children are very angry with him. He has offered ammends to them …

grand-daugther's husband 
what is proper for gift giving to grand-daugther's husband?

Introduction 
What is the proper etiquette for the mother when introducing her son's girlfriend/ live in, at a cocktail party. Is she the girlfriend, friend, and so …

Christmas gift 
Do you buy your sons girlfriends parents a Christmas gift?

Mother of 3 sons 
Is it appropriate to use a picture of the family taken at my one son's wedding that doesn't include my other son's girlfriend. The picture includes my …

Holday Cards  
I am getting ready to send Christmas cards out. My husband and I have two small children and my husband has two grown children ages 22 and 24 from previous …

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House Guests taking over  
We invited guests who had not where else to go, to share our home until they can get on their feet. They have been here less than a week but take a few …

Ex-step children 
My son is divorced. His ex-wife had 2 children from a previous marriage. I have no contact with these children but do continue to send them birthday cards. …

14 yr old grandson does not acknowledge a birthday gift 
I am an 85yr old great grandmother who sent a $75 check to Omah NE a month ago and have not had a response. What do I do?

Dead husband on xmas card 
Do you think it is okay to put a picture of my dead husband on my Christmas card? He is laughing and opening a present from last Christmas. I would like …

Signing a Card 
My daughter and son-in-law live with us temporarily. I am signing holiday cards with the names of my family members in the house. Do also include them …

who pays 
My wife is graduating from a masters level program. We have invited several immediate family members to the program. I am anticipating that we will go …

Signing 
How do you sign the inside of a card to your ex-husband and his wife

Do I include our 21 yr old son who lives far away on our Christmas photo card? 
Our family sends out photo Christmas cards every year. Is there an appropriate time to stop including our older child on the card? He lives across the …

Xmas gift for nephews common laws wife children 
Should I get a gift for my nephew's common laws wife children from another marriage for xmas

Do I include my sons GF in our family picture  
So my husband and I want to do a family picture with our adult children. My daughter is married so we want her Husband in the picture. One of my sons is …

Proper dressing with tasteless teasers 
How can I teach women to properly dress for a social outing? What are some useful etiquette tips when teaching women on how to have manners for each …

Future Daughter in Law 
Hi. What is the proper way of signing family Christmas cards when your son is engaged? Do you include the fiance's name or not? Do you say Greg and …

College scholarship 
My granddaughter recently received a scholarship at a college for next year's entry. Is it proper etiquette to send a gift or money or anything for such …

Chrsitmas Gift 
I bought a Christmas present for the father of my sister-in-law some weeks ago (he's in his 90s). Is it in good taste if I give it to my sister-in-law …

First Meeting 
Meeting my best friend daughter for the first time at lunch. (Her daughter is from out of the state) should I bring flowers, gift, card, or nothing. …

Invite Etiquette - deterring the ex-wife from attending an event 
Hi, Miss Manners. I have been dating John for a little over two years, meeting him just after his now ex-wife left him for another women. They have …

Christmas gift for Grandson's fiancee 
Grandson lives with fiance now. I usually give my grand children a small gift and $100. Now that fiance is in the picture what do I do. Give it as a …

signing card 
How to sign a card to son's girlfriend

I could use some advice with my husbands 50th birthday request. 
Dear Miss Manners, My husband and I keep separate finances due to his past tax issues and poor credit. I am a successful business owner with two children …

First year anniversary questions when dating 
First year anniversary when a man is dating a woman I know that the man is supposed to get the card and do something special for the woman what does the …

Mother-in-law sends first birthday card/gift in 20 years 
Hi. My wife and I have been together for 20 years, married for 3 (when the laws changed). I am not close with my mother-in-law. Not that we dislike each …

Proper utensil 
What is the correct utensil to use when eating macaroni and cheese?

how to sign get well card 
my ex sister-in-law just had surgery and i'm sending her a get well card. how do i sign the card?

Anniversary invite dilemma 
Having a 50 anniversary afternoon get together. How to invite girlfriends without their husband. Don't know the husbands only in passing

Am I required to do something? 
I just received an announcement from my daughter in laws brother that he and his live in girlfriend of 3 years are now married. what is expected of me? …

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signing gift cards 
Is it appropriate to continue to sign your adult children's names to gifts you are giving? At what age should that stop? I have a friend who's doing this …

Extend Congrats or Wait 
My oldest and closest niece is engaged to a guy I have met a few times; very nice. She called her Grandmother, my mother, to share the good news but not …

Addressing Sympathy Card 
My uncle recently passed away. We were not close, but his son, my cousin and I are. I have not met my cousin's wife. Should I address the sympathy card …

When grandson comes to live with grandma 
Is it proper to impose your house rules on grandson like ..ma I ing his bed,washing his hands before dinner,and advising you where he is going when he …

Not addressing an envelope properly to someone  
My stepson and his wife and family always send my mother a birthday card on her birthday as she lives with us. Although this is thoughtful they always …

Grandmother Dress 
The MOB is wearing a hi low hem at my granddaughter's formal wedding. The 2 grandmothers decided to wear short hems. The other grandmother later decided …

Gifts 
Should I give Birthday and Christmas gifts to my granddaughter's husband?

Stepdaughter 
My step daughter want her dad and I to come to her house for a cook out/ house warming but the mom lives there who is my husband's ex .what would u do? …

Baptism 
My girlfriends sister invited me to her daughters baptism. What I thought was strange is that my girlfriend and I are sitting in two different tables. …

Birthday gifts 
We are invited to a pool party with our daughter in laws family. Surprise party for our grandsons 18th birthday. At the same time our daughter in laws …

gift for 30th birthday 
My boyfriend is going with me to my daughter in laws 30th birthday party. He does not exchange gifts or cards with his own adult children. What is the …

Should Deadbeat Mother be invited to wedding festivities? 
My husbands and his first wife separated and his ex wife went home to her parents she was a young mother and left the care of their daughter to her elderly …

Wedding etiquette 
We have a large family. I am close with a couple of my cousins, but not their siblings... Can I invite some of my cousins, but not others to my wedding? …

Dinner party restaurant invite 
My Aunt and Uncle are hosting a dinner at a restaurant in honor of their granddaughter who was married within the last year. She lives in another state …

When to correctly use your spouses name on a table card 
We were at a wedding recently where my friend's, whose husband was unable to attend, place card was addressed Mrs. her husbands name and their last name. …

An older friend who expresses bigoted remarks 
I have a close friend who is 20 years my senior. We are quite close and I am amazed at what she has accomplished. Recently, quite out of the blue, we touched …

Invitation 
Invited to husband's cousins grad party and myself my husband and step daughter but she is bringing her boyfriend and my husband wants to sign his name …

Grown kids being baptized 
My husbands ex wife just decided out of no where that shes going to baptize their children (12 & 10)12 yo doesnt really want to and 10 yo dont care either …

Anniversary card 
Do I need to send a thank you or acknowledge I received an anniversary card in the mail?

hostess gift for engagement party hostess? 
our son is engaged and the brides" mother's friends are hosting an engagement party. Is it proper to take a gift to the friend that is opening her home …

Ex husbands nephew  
My children,current husband and I have all been invited to my ex husbands nephews graduation.we did decide to go support him and help celebrate.His parents …

Timing of sending Med Schl graduation gift. Is post ceremony OK? 
Is it alright to send a present for a Medical School Graduate AFTER the date of the graduation ceremony? I plan on doing so shortly after the graduation. …

Should I have expected a gift? 
We celebrated my daughters First Holy Communion at a very nice restaurant. My neice (26) works full time came with her boyfriend and did not give a gift. …

First Communion Gift 
We received a combined invitation to our great niece's and her cousin's (not related to us) first communion. The party after church is at the cousin's …

Contact with my daughter's future in-laws 
My daughter who presently lives in California My wife and I live in Florida recently got engaged to a nice young man who also lives in California. …

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Mother of the Bride 
What should be done when RSVP's are not returned at all?

Death day of my son 
I have been married for six years. My current husband had never met my son. My son died in a car accident shortly after me and my current husband started …

HS Graduation Gift 
My brother did not give my daughter a graduation gift (he and his wife are successful business owners). He sent my son a gift a few years earlier and …

farewell occassion 
Is money the only gift to give as a farewell gift to my 25 year old granddaughter as she is leaving the state to work at a new job. The invitation …

Out of town high school graduation 
My mother in law wants her sons to attend her great grand daughter's high school graduation. Of course the son that is the grand father of this child …

Wedding Invitation  
I invited one of my very best friends to my sons wedding this summer. This is a friend that I spend most of my social activities with. Save the date notices …

Should we send graduation announcement to deceased friends parents 
One of my sons really good friends died last year from a brain tumor. He was a pall bearer at the funeral and his parents have asked my son to keep in …

Son is having a baby 
My son is having a baby. I have his baby afghans that his great grandmother made. The baby shower is on Saturday and I want to wrap them and give them …

Invitations  
I am the mother of the groom. I am divorced from his father and I remarried. My second husband passed away. His father remarried.The bride's mother and …

Dinner event 
I am invited to a dinner where my friend has been chosen as "Catholic woman of year" in our parish. Do I take a card, gift or what is proper etiquette? …

Communion 
It's Mother's Day and I was invited to a first communion for my grand nephew. Where should I go... Tony daughter or to my grandnephew

Ex wife 60th birthday 
My ex wife's 60th birthday is next month...may 16 We have been divorced over 20 yrs No kids Have had no contact since 1998 Should I send her …

funeral? son-in-law's father dies 
We live 10 hours from my daughter and her husband's dad (who we've met briefly 3x) just died. We want to do the right thing although our daughter has told …

step grandmother 
Dennis and I were both widowed when we married. His granddaughter is getting married and I don't know whether to give her a separate gift.

Can you have a long distance shower for a couple and them not attend? 
My son and his fiance live in AZ and are getting married there. Can we have a wedding shower in Georgia and the bride not attend? Is that rude? How would …

Anniversary invite and gift for in-laws parents 
My sister-in-law (of 1 year) invited me to her parents 35 year anniversary celebration. I have never met her parents. Parties are not my thing and I will …

Graduation Party 
My nephew is having a high school graduation party with two other boys. I don't know the boys personally. I know who they are from their baseball games. …

Baby Shower 
when should invitations go out for a baby shower

Best friend husband died just short of their 50th wedding anniversary two years ago 
Is it cruel to invite his daughters and wife to my 50th?

birthday question 
I was not invited to twin-sister's nephew through marriage 50th birthday party. My niece said only his side of family is invited;however party is to be …

First Communion  
My niece's daughter is doing First Communion. I have 3 sons. My oldest was sent a separate invite,and he's bringing his girlfriend. When I was replying …

Should I send a gift for my boyfriend's newborn nephew? 
My boyfriend and I are 20-21 years old and his sister had her first child. When his mother went to visit his sister and family abroad, he asked them to …

Honoring my boyfriends deceased wife 
The anniversary of my boyfriends deceased wife is coming up next month. Is it ok for me to order a small corsage or tiny bouquet to place on her urn? Since …

Wedding vs memorial 
My father passed away and my mother has scheduled his memorial service to coincide with the annual family reunion over Memorial Day weekend. Arrangements, …

girl friend of dads daughters wedding 
I've been dating a man for over a year his wife died 11 years ago. should I give her a bridal shower?

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Sympathy card 
If the grandson has died and the mother is dead who gets the sympathy card the grandmother or sister

Brother's graduation or Goddaughter's christening? 
My younger brother and only sibling is graduating from college on the same day of my goddaughter's (daughter of my best friend) Christening. As her godmother, …

60th Wedding Anniversary Party - Who pays? 
Hello, My siblings and I hosted and paid for a big 50th anniversary party for our parents in 2007. It was quite expensive and in the town where the …

Meeting Future In-Laws 
I am meeting my son's future in laws for the first time. They are modern orthodox, and the wife foes not wear pants. Should I not wear pants when we go …

mother in law buys communion dress 
Please help, My mother in law bought my daughter her first communion dress with out including me on anything! She didn't ask me if it would be okay …

Funeral etiquette  
Should I put my son's girlfriend name on the sympathy card I'm sending to the funeral? She does not know the deceased and will not be attending the funeral. …

Address card to my son and fiance 
I am giving my son and fiance money for their wedding how do I sign the card

First Communion invitation  
I was wondering if I should add my husband's and my ex husbands wife to the invitation for our son's First Communion. All of us get along very well. Both …

Buying a sympathy card for my live in boyfriend. 
I live with my boyfriend and he just loss his grandmother. Is it expected for me to buy him a sympathy card?

Should aunt attend the wedding of her ex husband's niece 
I have been invited to the wedding of my ex husband's niece. I have remained close to his family. My brothers in law want me to attend. I have only …

Using the word Master 
Should I use Master in front of a 14 year old's name on his Birthday Card envelope especially when he and his dad have same first name ?

rsvp reply 
I put on the card "adults only" to people who have teenage and pre- teen children, when the card was sent back it had the children included. What do …

Anniversary 
Do you state the mans name first or the woman's?

Daughter -in -law Birthday 
How do we sign DIL birthday card? Is Mom & Dad acceptable if her mom is stil living, or should we sign by first name?

when to bring a date  
I've been invited to attend an uncles 80th birthday dinner at a restaurant with immediate family and a few close family members. Should I bring a date …

Funeral 
My son girlfriend her grandmother passed away. i didn t meet the parents before. should i go to the funeral home?? Thank You

Speaking a for language 
My cousins husband persists in speaking French to his children (who attend a French speaking school) or as a regular part of conversation in a group where …

Missing a first cousin's wedding because your daughter is going to prom. 
Dear Miss Manners, My first cousin is getting married this spring. Her wedding is being held just a few hours from me and my sister and mother had …

Engagement party etiquette  
My future daughters in law bought their wedding pictures to our engagement party to show a guest they see regularly (one has been married 2 yrs the other …

Signing a card 
Giving a holiday card to our son'so girlfriend. How do we sign the card? Do we sign both first names and then our last or do we Mr. & Mrs.

Anniversary Card with money or not? 
My friends' daughter e-mailed me asking that we send 50th Anniversary cards to her parents to her address as they will be visiting her at that time. She …

If joining a couple for the theatre are we obligated to dine with them? 
My husband and I were given theatre tickets from friends when they realized they would not be able to attend due to a death in the family. Their plans …

Disparity in Gifts 
My husband and I have been married for 25 years. He has five children from previous marriages; I have a son. I also have one grandchild and six step-grandkids …

Step mother to the groom 
The brides parents have invited us to a dinner party at their Country Club in honor of my future daughter in-law and her sister's weddings. Do I bring …

My friend's husband 
My girlfriend is giving her husband a 60th birthday party, should I buy him a gift..

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Who pays for college graduation dinner 
My grandaughter is graduating college out of state,we are traveling there to be with the family. She wants to g to a very expensive restaurant for her …

engagement congratulations card 
My nephew is recently engaged and sending note to his fiance I've never met - how do I sign the card? thanks, the Auntie

How to invite stepchildren to siblings graduation? 
My husband and I have been married for 20 years and have one son together. I have two adult children and he has three. Should I send invitations to my …

Date Anniversary 
Do you still celebrate your dating anniversary once you are married?

Guest at 50th wedding anniversary 
I have been invited to attend a 50th wedding anniversary party, hosted by the couple having the anniversary, no gifts were indicated on the invite. The …

Planning a surprise party for husband on your sisters birthday 
My sister informed me that after a combined birthday dinner for me, my cousin, her husband, and another person, that she wants to throw a surprise party …

gifts 
When our granddaughter got an award at school we brought her flowers. Now, her little brother is getting an award and I would like an idea of what to bring …

Funding for vacation 
Can you ask friends and family for money to help send your mom to New York for her 60th birthday after your dad got laid off and now she can't go?

baby gift card 
My personal injury attorney has had her first baby. What is an appropriate amount to give in a gift card? Is 25.00 to 35.00 enough?

how and what to say and sign daughter's birthday card 
How do I sign my girlfriend's daughter's birthday card

Aunt 
I give all my nieces and nephews gifts for Christmas and birthdays (the oldest is 30). A nephew got married this year. Do I need to start giving gifts …

Hostess Gift Problem 
I'm going to a friend's tonight and bought a bottle of champagne to bring as a hostess gift. When I asked my friend what I can bring, she responded: a …

Addressing a card with a Christmas floral arrangement. 
My niece is in a relationship and they live together.I want to send my niece a Christmas card with a floral arrangement.Do I address the card to her …

Sign a card 
How to sign a card to grandsons girlfriend

Employee gift  
Can i ask an employee if he received his gift for the new baby?

Retirement party 
A co-worker is having a retirement party after 25 years of service. Do the individuals attending buy a gift.

Almost a Mother-in-Law 
Miss Manners, My holiday card this year is a photo card of my husband and me, our grandchildren (son and daughter-in-law's) and a group picture of my …

Christmas gift 
My daughters boyfriend of eight months parents sent us a Christmas gift. I never saw parents of boyfriend and girlfriend exchange gifts. Just met the …

Stepson in family Christmas card picture? 
Should I be photographed with my stepson on our Christmas card? My stepson lives with his mother full time and he visits us two weekends a month. Sincerely, …

Poni 
Our oldest son got married this year to a girl he had been dating on and off for 8-9 years. Our youngest son had been dating a girl for about a year. Is …

Is it okay? 
Is is okay to send money to a bereaved widow? My childhood friend lost her husband and her finances are in dire straits and I don't want to do something …

I was my pastors sister and his all around helper 
My question is as follows. My brother who was a priest and had several congregants asked me on his death bed to write his last Christmas cards. How should …

perplexed? 
Do I give my grand daughter's boyfriend a Christmas gift?

signing a gift tag for daughters boyfriend 
We really haven't spent much time with my daughters boyfriend .in reality we had one lunch with him . they have been together a year so i think i should …

Is it appropriate to give a Christmas gift to each member of my husbands family? 
This is the first year I am celebrating Christmas with my husband's family. We just got married recently and I am not close with his family but i Have …

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How to sign Christmas letter 
My son passed away unexpectedly in October. We are including his photo and that of his brother (living) as well as ourselves (his parents) in our annual …

New boyfriend expects expensive gift 
I have a new boyfriend of 2 months. He asked me tonight if I thought about exchanging gifts with him. And I said, you want to buy me a present? And he …

Wedding cards 
If I have been sending out photo Christmas cards of my family for years. I now have a new daughter in law and my son and new daughter want to send …

What to do when your neighbor gives you a Christmas gift? 
My neighbor gave us a Christmas gift that she calls Christmas "happies" (to make you happy). I called to thank her for the gifts which were a small poinsettia, …

Xmas card  
Is it tacky to put my neighbors Xmas card in their box instead of mail thus saving postage ?

GIRLFRIEND'S PARENTS 
My sons girlfriend parents will join us on X'Mas eve for dinner. It will be in my son & his girlfriend's place. Should i buy them a gift?

Do I add my girlfriends name on a card to my ex mother in law  
I separated from my ex a year ago on fairly bad terms, we don't really speak any more. I am happy now with my new partner and her children. I am still …

Should I intervene when a gift has not been acknowledged with a thank you note? 
My manager gave a gift to my nephew (who works in our building) for his new born daughter and to his five year old son. He said thank you upon receiving …

how do I respond 
My husband passed away this past month - and his wishes were no services, memorials, etc. So our friends from out of town are not aware of his death and …

Boyfriend  
Filling out court paper work and I'm asked the relation to who lives in my home and I'm not sure how to properly give my boyfriend a title. What would …

House Guests Quandry 
Dear Miss Practical Manners, Seven years ago we traveled to Spain at a friend's invitation to stay and visit for two weeks. He was a terrific host and …

new boyfriend wants to maintain relationship with exbrotherinlaw 
My new boyfriend wants to maintain a relationship with his ex-brother in law. Is this normal?

Wedding gift 
My nice from late husbands side is getting married. She is having a destination wedding and I and my son cannot attend. I'm not rich but don't want to …

Son's fiancee's hit as gift 
My son recently became engaged. His fiancée has two 12-year old girls. Do we buy Christmas gifts for the three of them this year or wait until they marry …

How do I tell my niece that her obnoxious boyfriend is not welcome in my home? 
I usually host my sisters family for Christmas dinner. This year, her divorced daughter has a new live in boyfriend who is rude, crude, and obnoxious. …

Grandma 
My daughter & son-in-law are having their son baptized & after having a brunch at a restaurant. Are they expected to pay for everyone's meals? Thank …

leaves in your yard 
we have a couple of neighbors who rake their leaves to the curb and leave them there to blow down the street and into other neighbors years. (out City …

ex wants shower gifts returned  
My 2 sisters along with my ex's sister threw me a baby shower over 1 1/2 years ago. Both immediate sides of family were aware we were not together. Those …

Anniversary 
Is it considered ok to send flowers to your stepmother on their wedding anniversary if your father has passed away?

Christmas card dilemma- including sons girlfriend 
I am sending out Christmas cards this year I have two adult sons . One lives out of town with s girlfriend if two years I was going to make a multi photo …

Left off the invitation list 
My great nephew and his bride did not invite me to his destination wedding, which was held ten minutes from where I live! I have a good relationship with …

do you offer leftovers to go to your guest? 
when having family over for a meal do I offer leftover food to take home ?

Niece and nephew sending anniversary card 
Should our niece and nephew (on my wife's side of the family) send us an annual Happy Anniversary card? I ask because my family and close friends send …

Can't Curb My Enthusiasm from Florida 
I'm going on a 6-day vacation in several months. I really wanted to tell everyone that I'm excited to go, but I don't want to disappoint my DM. The last …

Christmas Card 
Is it ever proper to include a deceased man's memorial picture on a Christmas card?

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Christmas gift for son's live-in girlfriend? 
Hello Miss Manners, Our son has been living with his girl-friend for almost a year now, we always give him a gift or a check at Christmas. What is the …

Step sons girlfriend 
My stepson is 20 and has a girlfriend with a very dramatic, loud and manipulative personality. They've been together a year and a half. We aren't close …

mother and father of groom 
how do we sign our engagement gift card? mom and dad or first names?

wedding invitation question and difficult relationship 
I was invited to my cousin's wedding and many close and extended family will be attending. I've been seeing someone for year and half (known as friends …

what to bring to a soup and sandwich party? 
Dear Miss Manners I am invited to a party, the food is going to be (soup and sandwich) the host and hostess say "bring something to share" my question …

Order from menu or pre-select for small b-day luncheon?? 
I'm 100% hosting and paying for a luncheon for 12 for my mother's upcoming 70th birthday. I'm totally fine with guests ordering off the menu--in fact …

Nephews Wedding 
As an aunt, where should I sit during the wedding. I was placed in second row after mother, stepmother, father, Grandmother and Brothers girlfriend. Instead …

How to sign letter to son and his girlfriend 
When I sign a card or letter addressed to our son and his long term girlfriend, I am always unsure about whether to sign it "Mom" or my name or both. …

Signing a birthday card 
How do we sign a birthday card for our son's fiances young son?

Graduation party? 
Is it proper to have an open house for my son who will be done with college in December, but will not actually walk until June?

Sympathy 
What or who do I send to my brothers father in law passed away. I did not know him.

Signing Birthday Card 
How do I sign a birthday card to my sons girlfriend of two yrs.?

baby christening 
my fiancé's daughter is having her baby's christening and I did not get invited. I suggested to my fiancée that he call her and ask why ..that we are a …

Charity invite etiquette help 
Hello- I have been invited to a charity fashion show and luncheon where the table has been paid for. Do I need to pay for my seat?

family after a deceased souse 
Can a family stay in touch with their child's spouse and InLaws after she passes away

What to do 
My son is asking his girlfriend to marry him at her birthday party. Would it be ok to take a present for the engagement to the party? If so what

Boyfriend's niece's birdthday 
I have only been dating my boyfriend for 3 weeks, I have been invited to his niece's birthday party...should I buy her a present she is 8 years old?

meeting boyfriends grandparents 
Meeting my boyfriend's grandparents for first time. Thanksgiving week. They are in Chicago, I am in Arkansas. What kind of a hostess gift would be appropriate? …

Boss's Wedding 
My Boss is getting married and although coworkers were not invited I would still like to get her a gift. How much should I spend? What type of gift should …

Wedding Gift  
I have friends that got married....invited no family/friends. The wedding was at a local baseball park with a notary conducting the ceremony - she wore …

X BF daughters wedding 
I want to buy my Xs daughter an anonymous wedding gift

Should I present a gift to the Bishop baptizing my son seperate from the donation to the congregation 
Hello, My son is being baptized by a Bishop at the Godparents home, which will be a small ceremony for close family. I am aware that a donation to …

Nieces birthday party 
My 2 nieces just started having their families. They each had a little girl and on their first birthday, sent out invitations to the small birthday party. …

Charity donations 
When invited to a charity wine/ale tasting, what is a proper amount to donate?

should I stay or should I go 
Ive been married to my husband for 20 years I have known about his daughter from another woman every since the beginning of our relationship and always …

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Display Wedding Photos 
is it considered proper to display wedding photos of my parents in the bathroom of my daughter's home?

Gift ettiquette 
Is a married couple supposed to chip in more for a parents anniversary gift than a single sibling

exes family 
Is it wrong to pursue a relationship with my ex husbands nephew? We have been divorced for over 10 years. There is a 5 year age difference between the …

Etiquette when brought to child's birthday party 
I'm visiting my daughter from out of town. She and my grandson are going to a child's birthday party. Should I bring a gift or card?

Bridal Luncheon Gift 
I am giving the bride to be a bridal luncheon with four other ladies. My cost will be about $500 - $600 am I still obligated to buy a gift for the couple? …

wedding invitation 
invited to a friends granddaughters wedding whom I met once. What's my obligation?

Bridal shower gifts 
If you gave someone a Bridal shower gift, and the wedding was called off, and none of the gifts were returned, are you expected to give another shower …

Are step children included for 50th anniversary party? 
Hello Miss Pratical Manners, My sister and I are planning our parents 50th wedding anniversary party together, although I will be paying for the majority …

Black Tie Affair - Dress Code 
My fiancé and I are going to a Black Tie affair in Wyoming. My typical formal dress attire is Scottish Highland dress, actually its my only formal dress …

Meeting the Govenor 
Meeting the Gov. Of my state. Do I bring a gift if so what is proper

paying for a parent at a party 
I want to have a birthday party at the American café for my daughter who is 10 years and she wants to invite 3 friends do I have to pay for their parents …

Just Wondering 
I am visiting my vacation home for a brief stay and I have invited my best friends,who live here year- round to be my guest at one of the nicest restaurants …

My boyfriend never bring a gift to me 
Hi my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 months and when we go out he pays but he never buy me a gift. Even when he come to my house for dinner …

Lent my vacation home to niece who then invited friends without telling me. 
My niece asked if she and her two dogs could use my vacation home for a long weekend. She said she was feeling stressed and in need of some down time at …

mother of groom and boyfriend 
My boyfriend of 9 months and I will be attending my son's wedding. Do we give separate gifts or go together on one?

Inviting Married Nephew & His Wife 
Dear Miss Manners: Generally, shouldn't married children living separately from their parents receive their own invitation to family gatherings like …

Should a Step-mom be included on a birthday party invitation? 
If the dad is remarried and the birthday party is being thrown by both parents, should the stepmom be included as one of the hosts?

thank you from grandkids. 
We take the 4 real and 4 step grandkids back to school shopping, they get at least 2 to 3 outfits apiece. Cost no matter. and lunch and birthday shopping. …

Husband's ex at babyshower  
My step-daughter is having a baby and my-laws wanted to throw a shower for her,which is great,except my stepdaughter has asked that her mother and her …

Ain't Joanie 
I was invited to my niece's baby shower. My daughter and daughter-law were not. Should I inquire if it was an oversight?

Accidentally shipped item I didn't order 
I was accidentally shipped an item I didn't order from an out of state antique dealer I just recently shopped with. After unpacking my items I noticed …

Father 
We are giving a gift to our daughter and her live in boyfriend, how do we sign it. He knows us by our names, we are not refered too as mom and dad to …

Live In 
Hello, I'm living with my boyfriend and it's a new experience. I was brought up to wait for everyone to arrive to have dinner or to consider everyone …

Making too much of leaving names out of signature? 
My husband attended out of state the wedding of a close relative where our kids and I were unable to join him due to our kids being in school. There was …

birthday card 
How do i sign birthday card for my son's girlfriend

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Wedding shower  
My nephew is getting married on a cruise ship (in dock) with a limited number of invited guests. His father (my brother) is wanting my daughter and myself …

Son's cohabiting girlfriend 
My son has lived with his girlfriend for almost 9 months now. They live 3-4 hours away from us. We have met her and we think she is very sweet. Friends …

Housewarming 
My daughter just moved out on her own and purchased her first home. My niece has moved out of her home and will be rooming with my daughter. We had …

Give a gift or not for non invite  
Should I send a Gift for my great nephew's christening? I was not invited to the ceremony or luncheon. They decided to only have grandparents and sister's …

go to ex-mother-in-law's funeral or celebrate wedding anniversary 
What do you think I should do? My ex-wife's mother passed away. She has been estranged from her parents for 10 years. The funeral is on my & my current …

Christening 
What kind of wrist corsage do I give to godmother

Wedding guest(s) list 
I want to invite my friend to my daughter's wedding. She is single. Should I address the invitation "Ms..... and guest" or not? Is the proper way to …

Do I bring hostess gift to a Welcome Party with other school parents? 
My daughter will be starting kindergarten this year. The school's PTO asks a current family to host an informal party for the new parents each year. The …

Do I have to give a present to my great nephew whom I never met 
ok so my great nephew will be one year old and I still never met him, the only reason my sister e-mailed me a week ahead was because 9 months ago I really …

Thank you gift for my wedding director 
Would It be appropriate to give a pull up photo album with her venue name monogramed on it as a thank you gift; along with some pictures of our wedding …

Wedding Happenings 
At great nephew wedding rehearsal dinner, all out of town guests were invited. Tables were round, seating about10 people. At the bride & groom table Sat …

Do I have to visit with my 15 yr nieces boyfriend? 
My sister thinks I need to vist with her 15 yr old daughters boyfriend. The boyfriend is 18. I feel I have no reason to get to know this boy, nor do I …

Gift to Bride & Groom to Be 
A co-worker of mine was slated to get married and in support of her wedding, our staff decided to throw her and her husband-to-be a party/shower. We …

50th anniversary 
How do you acknowledge a 50th anniversary when the husband died before the actual day?

Baptism invites and gifting 
My family recently started to attend church. My daughters have never been baptized and are currently 8 & 9. We haven't lived in this state very long (3 …

deceased child 
Do we bring gifts to an open house celebration for a deceased adult child?

Dialogue Between Opposing Attorneys 
Is it common (or ok) for OPPOSING attorneys in a lawsuit to call each other by first name?

twin's birthday party 
i have been dating my boyfriend off and on for 8 years and he has a twin sister that I am no longer friends with. I am planning a birthday party for him …

The death of a daughter in laws grandmother 
What should I do as a mother in law

Ex's stepfather dies. Have Funeral question  
My ex's step father died. his granddaughter (my daughter) and I are going to the funeral. Is it proper to bring my feonsay that they have never met to …

Timing of MOG Arrival in Town for Son's weekend Wedding? 
My son & future daughter-in-law are flying into her hometown of Boston for a fall weekend wedding. It's on Sunday, and we're hosting rehearsal dinner early …

Surprise - brother is having a baby?!! 
I found out from my father yesterday that my brother and his wife are having a baby - in the next few days. Wow, was I surprised. And, of course, hurt. …

Wedding invitation wording 
My niece is getting married. Her Daddy that raised her is her step-father. He and her mother are divorced and not remarried. Her biological father has …

Engagement party guest list? 
If I am paying for a small immediate family engagement dinner in a private room at a winery for my granddaughter, is it necessary to invite my daughter's …

Anniversary Card 
Do I send an anniversary card to my to my son and daughter-in law who are living apart?

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Can my 3 sibling really get away with this? 
I feel like you have to earn your 90 years old birthday merit badge and I my father's is December 4th. He lives at the Armed Forces Retirement Home in …

Equality of gift to a non related child . 
My daughter has a live in boyfriend, & his child, and my daughter has 1 child.There is 3 yrs difference between the children.My question is. Do I have …

New sis-in-law moves here but no contact 
My husband and his brother are as close as twin brothers. They both married a couple years ago 2 weeks apart mainly because his brother's bride lived in …

Teen Going on Vacation with Friend's Family 
My teenaged daughter has been invited to accompany her friend's family on a weeklong vacation. Of course I will make sure that she has spending money, …

Should I pay for a guest of a guest that someone else invited to dinner I'm paying for at a restaurant? 
I am taking my daughter and granddaughter out to dinner. My daughter invited my nephew (her cousin) to go along. I agreed to it and to pay for him also. …

my mother-in-law wants an invite to my sisters wedding  
My mother-in-law is asking me to ask my twin sister if she is being invited to my twin's wedding. My mother-in-law has known the groom for over 17 years, …

Title for Father in Wedding Invitation 
The father of the bride is an airline captain. Is it proper to use his title on the wedding invitation.? Also the grooms parents are divorced and …

Having his cake and eating it too! 
Me and my boyfriend live together, however, we are in the process of breaking up. Last night he brought another female home and told me to sleep on the …

wedding gift 
Wedding gift coworker's Daughter

party dilemma 
My cousin invited my daughter to a birthday party (pool) for her daughter and made a big deal about us going then said my two other children couldn't attend …

Salutation when unsure marital status 
What is the appropriate way to address an invitation if you don't know if the person is married (same, different gender) or has a partner or is single? …

Do I signing Aunt to nieces live in boyfriend as they have a new baby? 
Can I sign a card to my nieces boyfriend with Love Aunt Sue? They have a new baby and live together , plan on getting married but they are not at this …

different twins 
We have twins and 1 graduated from high school this year. The other graduated from a continuation school 6 months ago after getting pregnant at 15. Add …

Former teacher 
How does a former teacher and her husband sign their names on a wedding card to her former student? Read more at: http://www.practicaletiquette.com/etiquette-questions …

to wish a happy fathers day 
My boyfriend lost his daughter to cancer several years ago.Should I wish him a happy fathers day

Splitting the Bill 
We recently hosted a 60th anniversary party at a lovely venue. Although the other hosts had rather large immediate family, we had planned to split the …

Signing cards 
Should husbands or wives name come first?

Sister bringing uninvited grandchild for week-long visit 
I have not seen my sister in years. We are close but live several states apart. I've invited her and her husband to come stay with us for a week. I've …

Card - what to put on it 
Is it proper to use the picture on the save the date in the card to the couple for a shower?

son in law 
In laws hate me. They are getting old and will pass away before me. The in law alive would not want me at the funeral. 3 kids involved.

Coach Recommendation 
I am filling out athletic questionnaires for college. They ask for my High School Coach's name. He passed away my Junior year. Do I put a notation next …

Stepson graduation  
My stepson has not spoken to me or my husband since October 2013. We have reached out to him with no replies do we attend his high school graduation. …

SHOULD WE ATTEND OUR SON'S GIRLFIREND'S GRADUATION? 
IS IT OKAY TO ATTEND OUR SON'S GIRLFRIEND'S GRADUATION? WE ARE FRIENDS WITH HER PARENTS.

Graduation Gift Amount 
Monetary gift for work friend's daughter who just graduated from med school. I never met the daughter. How much?

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A friend that I don't get along with is trying to throw a birthday bash for my husband - without me???  
My husband and I have had a fairly difficult relationship. There is a couple that we used to do everything with - socialize, vacation, etc. They are big …

Party Attendance 
My husband and I have a regular summer Wednesday night happy hour. It is by invitation. Recently people have heard about our parties and have come up to …

Family Wedding 
I am a newly wed. My husband's sister is getting married in a couple months and has invited the last women he had sex with in the previous town they all …

Invitation to birthday party 
My boss is having her 50th birthday party on a yacht. Today the invitation came In my name only and not inviting my husband. my husband has Alzheimer's …

HS Graduation invitations 
I received HS Graduation invitations from triplets whom I've never met. They are the grandchildren of a friend whom I don't see more than once a year. …

Baptism gifts 
If first baby is baptized and gift is given, but the second child is not baptized should a gift be given? And does it matter if it is family?

Pre wedding brunch 
I am going to a wedding this weekend as a guest of a relative. I have also been invited to attend the day before brunch for the ladies of the wedding …

how to list step-mom 
My niece is getting married soon and her fiance's stepfather(only father he's ever known) recently remarried without even telling him. Fiance's mother …

dinner invite for dad and his girlfriend 
Charlie and I have been dating for 5 months. I have met his friends Pat and Carol once, they have inquired a few times about my "still being in the picture" …

what to wear to gransons h.s. graduation 
My gransons graduation from high school will take place shortly. I am 60 years old. I would like to wear pants because I wear corrective type shoes …

Phrase " you are welcome to come" 
I call this the "unvite". Someone is having a party, they leave a message on the phone that says, "We are having a memorial day cookout, and you are welcome …

Medical School Cash Gifts 
My daughter recently married. She and her husband (my new son-in-law) will both graduate from medical school at the same time. I had planned to give …

Daughter's Boyfirend's Graduation 
My daughter and her boyfriend have been dating for 9 months, should I attend my daughter's boyfriend's graduation?

Anniversary Etiquette  
A couple of years ago the father of my first love passed away. I went to the funeral with my wife (of thirty-two years). The family was not at all surprised …

Birthday and death in family 
My friends birthday is on the same day as his grandmothers funeral. What is the right thing to do? We have a sympathy and birthday card- do we forgo the …

Adoption respect 
When I was adopted as a new baby many years ago, it was my father's idea. My mother was not very enthusiastic as she & my father already had one son who …

attire at celebration of life 
What is the appropriate attire at celebration of life?

Invited as a date to bar mitzvah 
My daughter's boyfriend has asked to her to attend his younger brother's bar mitzvah as his date, she has not received an invitation herself, does she …

Next door neighbor 
we received a graduation invite over the back yard fence for our neighbors child. This child doesn't talk to us at all and most like wouldn't know our …

How to address a letter for two married doctors? 
I must address a letter to two married doctors. Is it proper to write: Dr. Catherine Thomas and Dr. Walter Thomas?

Mother's Day? 
Since it is mother's day we often give a Happy Mothers Day greeting to any women in our lives who are mothers. My daughter asked if it is proper to express …

took wrong gift to wedding shower 
I purchased 2 sheets sets when I shopped for a wedding shower gift and accidentally put the set for my. home in the gift bag, and left the set for the …

X at graduation celebration 
Is it appropriate to ask my bothers ex wife to my sons graduation celebrations? The celebration will include overnight stays at my house

Letter to the Queen 
We received a card from her Majesty the Queen of England on our 60th wedding Anniversary How do I thank her for it?

Which is Proper 
I am sending a birthday gift to my granddaughter, she has a Little Sister, so I am sending her something, which is proper This Gift is for your Little …

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Spouse deceased, wedding ring critical 
What is the proper length of time to wear your wedding ring after the death of your spouse?

giving a gift as a house guest. 
We will be traveling to see our friend who is an US ambassador. will be saying with them a few days. Should we bring a gift?

Mother of groom 
my son graduates from medical school 2 weeks before the wedding. Should the couple be introduced at the wedding as Dr. And Mrs. ?

Signing a card to an ex nephew  
I have received an announcement of the graduation of my ex husbands sisters son my ex nephew. What is the appropriate way to sign the card. Just my name …

Divorced Grandparents Seating  
My grandparents are divorced. What is proper seating for them at my wedding?

first wedding gift for my wife? What should I give her? 
I have been married one year. What should I give her for our first anniversary? Anniversary is tomorrow, May 3, 2015.

Adult graduation gift 
My brothers fiancé is 35 yrs old, is working full-time, and went back to school for an associates degree. She is graduating in a few weeks and I am unsure …

Invited to two wedding on the same date. 
What do I do? I would like to attend both of course. Do I need to decide to only attend my family's celebration? My nephew is newly engaged and has set …

graduation  
A friend of mine daughter is graduating from high school, she is pregnant and eloped to get married, without my friends blessing. Now the daughter is wanting …

Meeting Inlaws 
what is the proper etiquette when a daughter lives in a different city then her mother and becomes engaged to a man who's parents live in another city …

SHOULD I PAY? 
I WAS INVITED TO A BIRTHDAY PARTY AT A RESTAURANT WITH A GROUP OF PEOPLE I CANCELLED 24 HOURS PRIOR WHAT IS THE ETIQUETTE SHOULD I HAVE TO PAY FOR …

Wording for Social Gathering at a Restaurant to Celebrate Upcoming Graduation 
I am going to send out an email to a parents group that we are getting together for drinks and appetuzers at a restaurant to celebrate our sons and daughters …

Naval Academy Graduation 
We have been invited to a graduation at the Naval Academy which we can not attend. Should the graduation card include money?

wedding announcement for private family wedding for friends 
what type of announcement for a private family wedding can be send to other extended family members and close friends that I know would want to celebrate …

Prom Corsage Dilemma  
My son's girlfriend prefers not to have a corsage (wrist or otherwise) for prom. What is the proper thing to do in this situation. We live in Iowa but …

Flowers for funeral 
When your mom dies are you expected to send flowers to the service?

husband deceased 
son called on the anniversary of our marriage to congratulate me on this date. I just felt it was not appropriate.

Should I accept financial help from a close relative? 
My Aunt has come into some money and is financially stable. We are close so she knows my financial situation and nows that having financial problems is …

Birthday gift 
Going to my girlfriend's sister birthday party, do I bring a gift

Headstone Headache 
My husband has been asked to "handle" (research, order, ship, arrange for installation and pay for) a headstone for his aunt who died a year ago by the …

Bad Breath 
I have a co-worker with unspeakable bad breath. He is very nice, personable and a talker. His breath is so bad, it lingers in the room after he's left! …

High School Grad gift 
What gift do you suggest for the son and niece of the guy that I have been dating for 1 1/2 years if any? Thanks, Esther

Etiquette for gift inherited thru a will 
Does a receipent of an inheritance need to send a thank you note to the family of the decedent-- (Decedent left a generous gift to his church.)

What is the proper way to eat soup? 
I say the the proper way to eat soup is to slide the soup spoon away from myself so as not to spill soup on my clothes. My husband says it does not …

I am giving my daughter (lives in Va.) a baby shower. 
Do I need to invite my daughter's mother in law and sister in law to a baby shower that I am throwing for my daughter/J Daughter lives in Va., mother …

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hostess gift 
If you bring food to the dinner is it necessary to also bring a hostess gift?

Parental Boundaries 
I am married and live with my husband and toddler son. I am a Stay-at-Home mom plus a freelance photographer. My husband is a computer engineer and works …

Ex's funeral 
Should I attend an ex boyfriend's funeral. Dated 17 years then I dumped him because we were complacent and never discussed marriage

Quinceanera Dinner  
So, I am limted on space and have a budget for dinner, I was thinking of putting "Reservations for #" on the reception cards, I have seen it done on wedding …

Aunt throwing a graduation party 
Hello, I was taken back when my s-i-l announced that she would throw a graduation part for my son and that my husband and I were invited. Oh, and my sister …

grandmother of the groom 
My grandson is getting married soon and is planning a honeymoon to Italy for 2 weeks. He and the bride to be are offering a gift suggestion of sending …

First meeting with our daughter's boyfriend  
my husband and I are invited to dinner at the home of our daughter's boyfriend's parents. We have never meet them and I am unsure what is an appropriate …

Response to uninvited wedding guests 
My daughter is having a destination wedding, very small 120 guests at most. What to say to relatives that were not invited and are upset?

Gifts for your host 
My daughter is an au pair in France (we are from the United States). Her French family has invited me for a vist. I would like to bring the mom, dad, …

Addressing an Envelope to Master or Mr. 
When I send cards to young boys I always address the envelope to Master (name of child). At what age does it become acceptable to address the envelope …

Is it polite to "celebrate" the anniversary of the date a parent who almost died? 
My husband almost died two years ago. I performed CPR and was at his side throughout the most frightening and horrendous time of our life. March 25th …

Graduation tickets limited 
My daughter gets 7 tickets to her graduation. Her father and I are divorced and he has a GF. He also wants to bring his mother. There are only four tickets …

table manners 
My friend and his girlfriend ars staying with me till they get a place. When I cook I cook fort the three of us. Several times she has cooked but only …

Retired teacher 
Do you give a monetary gift to a cousin and her husband who are retiring to another state. There having a lunch at her sisters house. Roy

Daughter's boyfriend invited both sets of parents to dinner at a restaraunt ? 
Daughter,s boyfriend invited both sets of parents to a dinner at a restaraunt . Father of the boyfriend took the check and paid for all ...... We did …

Retirement Party Couture 
Dear Miss Manners, I've been invited to my mother's cousin's husband's (my cousin twice removed?) retirement party. I'm wondering what I should wear. …

anniversary brunch 
we were invited to an anniversary brunch and found out we had to pay our tab $140.00! I found this to be rude. If we were expected to pay they could …

Gum chewing co-worker 
Hello- I have a co-worker who sits next to me that chews gum all day at work, and she chews with her mouth open and makes smacking sounds constantly. …

husband and new wife 
My granddaughter born 6.14 14 is having her 1st bday and am I am not invited,yet x and new wife are. My son and wife and baby live in Va. My x and i …

50th Birthday Party Invite Wording 
My brother is turning 50 and I would like to invite about 30 family and friends to a restaurant to celebrate. The guests would be paying their own tab. …

Addressing Wedding Invitation 
What is proper way to address a wedding invitation to a woman, whose husband is in nursing home, with end-stages of Alzheimer's. Do we address to "Mr. …

calling hours 
My husband is out of town and his friends brother passed away. I am going to pay my respects during the calling hours. How should I sign the registry …

wedding gifts 
what is the etiquette for gifts when the couple will be sharing a home with parents?

mother of the groom 
I am the mother of the groom. My ex husband has remarried and will be walking down the aisle with his new wife (who i have never met). My son has decided …

graduation or wedding 
should I attend my stepsons high school graduation or my sisters sons wedding? Both are on the same day in June. The wedding would cost me $400 or more …

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Feeling Disrespected 
Is it okay for single women to send my Husband personalized greeting cards? Should this not upset me?

Single Gal 
An ex-boyfriend sent flowers and candy for Valentine's Day. We've been split up for over a year now and I have been avoiding his calls. Do I thank him …

Am I obligated to invite Grandma to my graduation ceremony? 
I am graduating from College in a few months, and I only have 6 tickets. I have given one each to my boyfriend, sister, mom, dad and my Grandma (mom's …

5x6 two sided note cards 
If necessary, is it proper etiquette to write on both sides of a two sided personalized note card? I rarely need to (but just in case) and I was told long …

Rude step daughter never thank you or respect  
My husbands second daughter by his second ex wife has really been a selfish women for far too long. He is given her much help with her money, support …

Former daughter-in-laws grandmother died. 
What should I as the former mother in law do if anything? What should my son do?

Bridal shower, living in one state but giving shower in another  
My daughter and her father andI live in South Carolina. We're from Ohio and that's where all of our family is at. I would like to give my daughter a bridal …

Left off the guest list 
our best friends had a dinner party for seven couples on Friday night. My husband and I were intentionally left off the guest list because they felt that …

Gift for new baby. 
I recently attended a baby shower for a friend's daughter. Along with a generous gift I brought a pack of diapers for the "diaper" raffle. After having …

boyfriend & a cell phone 
Should I not be upset that my boyfriend bought me a phone but placed the account in his name...

How to address an invitation to a 50th wedding party? 
My husband and I want to give our own 50th wedding anniversary bash. There will be 100 invites. The invitations are semi formal. The function room is …

question 
How do I sign a valentine card to my son and his live in girl friend

How to adreas an invite to couple who have obtained guardian ship of grandchildren  
I'm sending out a invititation to a couple who recently obtained guardian ship of their 3 grandchildren and would like to know how should I address the …

how to sign the card 
My daughter-in-law's mother died. How should I sign the card? Should I sign it Mom or just my first name? What is appropriate and will be received well? …

Wedding gifts AND shower gifts for former DIL and her fiance'? 
Our son died 3 1/2 years ago and our daughter-in-law is getting remarried to a very wonderful man. He seems to be an answer to our prayers for her. We …

Calculating a Tip when using Discounts 
We often use discounts (AARP, AAA, coupons) when dining out. On occasion, it's a buy one, get one free deal. My opinion is that the tip should be based …

Introductions to Waitperson at Restaurant 
Is it proper to introduce yourself to the waitperson at a restaurant? The waiter often introduces him/herself and then my husband introduces us to them. …

What kind of gift do I get for my girlfriends family death  
My girlfriends grandmother who she was really close to just died and I was wondering what kind of gift I should surprise her with when I see her

Wedding Boutonneire for widowed MIL's boyfriend? 
My fiancé's father passed a couple years back and his mother has a new boyfriend that she lives with. Should we provide him with a boutonniere at our wedding? …

Grandma invites granddaughter's boyfriend to Mom's birthday dinner.... 
Without even asking if Mom wanted a birthday dinner. My daughter has been dating a 21 year old(two years younger than she) for less than six months. …

Shower invitations 
Is it proper to email bridal shower invitations

Should divorced parents split the cost of their daughters wedding? 
My boyfriends daughter is getting married, she is planning a November 2015 wedding in the $15k range, the parents are divorced and have been for 15+ years. …

Flowers or not for a newly widow at brunch 
is it appropriate to take flowers for brunch to a newly widowed woman friend?

New gift-giving rules? 
My brother and his girlfriend have a lot of rules attached to giving them gifts. Our family has been through both of their birthdays, her son's birthday, …

Acknowledging Value of Handwritten Thank You Notes 
I surprised my 14 nieces and nephews who are all young adults with a gift of $100 each this past Christmas. All expressed thanks - even the one who is …

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Retirement Party Corsage 
If u r hostesssing a retirement celebration @ a hotel should u wear a corsage.

Ask if I should help, or just help 
My friend was putting up a fence. She sometimes likes to do things her own way. I asked if she wanted any help. She said absolutely not. I was surprised …

baby shower for daughter and invited ex family  
it is ok to have a baby shower for my daughter and have my ex husband and family over if I am engaged and he does not want me to have

Afternoon retirement open house 
I want to give cash as a present. We seldom see this person. What amount is appropriate?

Do I need to give a wedding gift for a coworkers daughter? 
I work with several other women in a department of a hospital. Her adult daughter who lives in another state, and whom none of us has met, recently married. …

Charity Event Question 
Our neighbors invited us to a charity event because they purchased a table. We are thinking of going. Are we expected to contribute to the cost of the …

Long distance bridal shower 
I am throwing a bridal shower for my niece. She lives in AZ and the bridal shower will be in MI. She is flying in for the event. We really want guests …

The surprise baby shower that never happened 
I just joined the office group in August 2014. I've always been in the department but my office was separate.. Now we all are in one open space. My grandchild …

This dress acceptable? 
My granddaughter is getting married next October 31 (yes, Halloween). I have a new black sheath dress with a somewhat shiny copper-colored jacket. Would …

25 anniversary manners  
When your in-laws are celebrating their 25'th anniversary and they make their invitations do the son's wife's also participate in the invitation or only …

Gift for baptism for child of a distant cousin we never met 
My husband recently received an invitation to a baptism for a distant cousin of his that we have never met. She lives out of state. It wasn't even addressed …

Blended Family Engagement Party 
A cousin of mine has recently gotten engaged. Her fiancé has a young daughter from a previous marriage. Should I include his daughter as a gift recipient? …

The bride  
My question is i asked my brothers wife to be my maid of honor and I am having my neice and nephew as the flower girl and ring borrower. My question is …

proper etiquette for family wedding pictures with exspouse & current spouse & husband 
My husbands grandson is getting married soon. His Mother insist on family wedding pictures with ALL the grandparents in the same picture. I am the current …

Baby shower & guest list 
So my sister threw me a baby shower. And she invited her in-laws to it. I know them, but barely. We are aquainances at best. She married into a big Italian-American …

Picture Taking  
At a recent family gathering, my sister insisted taking pictures. I politely told her no.. She knows I hate having my picture taken. She would not take …

Christmas gift 
We have a niece and nephew that we really haven't seen or spoken to in about a year do to their mother disconnecting from us. We sent birthday cards with …

sympathy card opening 
I was not invited to the opening of the sympathy cards from my sons funeral. His Stepmother chose this. Also there were several cards addressed directly …

My boyfriends parents didn't buy either one of us a present for Christmas  
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now , this was our first Christmas together. We live together and had a huge family dinner at our …

Dinner Etiquette Not Reciprocated 
Dear Miss Practical Manners, For the past several years I have held holiday dinners at my house. I am not one who entertains often, but I tried very …

Mother in law taking to manny liberties with MY child 
Hello, My name is Shane Hagemeier and my mother in law is VERY demanding and takes liberites when it comes to my son Allen ( who is her first grandchild …

CREAMED SOUP 
Is the soup spoon dipped away from the diner at the further side of the bowl and then raised to the lips to sip? Is a round soup spoon used for all varieties …

Who is Responsible? 
Daughter is seriously dating a guy. He is in college and going to his home for Christmas break. Who is responsible for inviting my daughter/his girlfriend …

How to send a Christmas Card 
Our daughter & son-in-law are getting a divorce however they are still staying in the home for now together & need to know how to send a Christmas Card …

address a gift card 
how do I address a Christmas gift card to a granddaughter's boyfriend

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Brother's Girlfriend Christmas Gift 
My brother has been dating his girlfriend for about a month and a half, their relationship is moving quickly. I have met her once and she is amazing. Im …

Grandparents formal announcement of new grandchild 
What is the proper etiquette for the person receiving an announcement from the grandparents of their newly born grandchild? First I was called and asked …

Guests to a dinner club party 
Is it necessary to invite guests to your home prior to their being your guests at a guests cocktail party? They will know most of the people.

Birthday Wishes 
Hi! I am raising my niece who lost her mom when she was 5. She has tried calling me mommy but its not that I didn't want her to its just I didn't know …

Christmas Gifts for step grandchildren I have never met 
Complicated............my daughter remarried and lives in another state. How do I handle Christmas gifts? New husband has a 13 yr. old step daughter …

Please help explain why. 
My daughter just turned 21. Her Boyfriend of one month (who is her first boyfriend) gave her a charm necklace as a birthday gift. We took him with us to …

Friend provided services and did not charge a fee 
We recently had some work done at our house and a friend did the design work. We've asked repeatedly for his bill for the services and at first he said …

What's right? 
my sister passed away 3 years ago, and my brother-in-law has a girlfriend, should I feel obligated to have them to our immediate family Christmas dinner, …

Christmas Gifts 
My nephew, who lives in a different state, moved in with his girlfriend. I have never met or spoken to his girlfriend. Is it rude to send him a Christmas …

Christmas gifts 
My nephew was engaged in Aug 2014 I have been sending him gifts since he was born. Do I now need to add his fiance name to the gift or buy her something? …

if I divorce my husband, is his extended family still my family? Im I part 
I love my ex husband family, he says I can't call them 'my brother inlaw' my cousin' my mother in law. Is he correct?

cocktail party etiquette 
When a couple is invited to a cocktail party, should the husband or wife call the hostess to thank them the following day and if so, who should call, the …

How to respond to an indecent proposal? 
Good day! How are you? Can you tell me, please, how to respond to an indecent proposal? Thank you!

Christmas gift 
Is it proper to give a Christmas gift to a nieces new boyfriend I've met once?

Should my live-in boyfriend's family buy my son a Christmas gift? 
My 11 year old son and I live with my boyfriend and his 12 year old daughter. We are going to his family's Christmas celebration in Chicago this year. …

Addressing daughter in law 
My son died several years ago. We had an estranged relationship. I am not close to my daughter in law, but send birthday and Christmas cards containing …

Gift 
Do I have to gave gift my daughter's boyfriend?

Christmas card for brother's separated wife 
My brother and his wife recently separated. They have a young adult son (living on his own). They have not told their son about their separation, and …

christmas gifts for boyfriends or girlfriends of adult children 
we have adult children that are not married but have boyfriends and girlfriends. we give our adult children a gift for Christmas that is usually around …

what, if anything, should parents do following the first meeting of an adult son's girlfriend? 
Our son is 25yoa and has begun to date a very nice young lady whom is very taken by him. The relationship has strong potential, and she was very nervous …

Christmas Card Picture 
What is the etiquette of including girlfriends in a Christmas card picture. they have been around for a while but not all family knows them. Is it tacky …

Everyday house guest 
I have a 30 yr old girl that comes to my house everyday to see her boyfriend that lives here. Prior to him living here she was a regular guest also. …

Meeting Son's Future Inlaws 
What is the protocol on meeting the parents of a sons fiancee

when is theproper time to express sympathy for death of step parents sister? 
My sister died and I would like to know when would be the proper time my step daughter (aged 55) and my step granddaughter aged 22 to express their condolences. …

food on a bone 
If you are served food on a bone, can you eat with your fingers?

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Nephew's Graduation 
My nephew graduates high school in May and I am trying to figure out what I should order to wear to it...any suggestions???

Mother 
My daughter, a college student, stayed at the home of her roommate's uncle for a week in New York. She 's 21. Should she send a thank you gift ? Should …

Treat 
Good day! How are you! How I need to treat the persons who only see mistakes of another persons, please? Thank you!

My husband (of 20 years) suddenly lost his son.  
His ex wife is requesting sympathy cards that were addressed/mailed to us so she can write out Thank you cards! Which we have already taken care of. Really? …

son's death 
Is it okay to continue signing my deceased son's name to cards and gifts after his death?

Grown nephew's family and Aunt's birthday 
Our family is small and we have always met for lunch for each other's birthdays. As the Aunt lived out of town for several years and had not had a birthday …

My son's Half siblings & gifts 
My son's father has 3 kids with 3 different Mothers. He is a great father, but just not the type of man that wants to settle down. Anyhow, we have a …

Appropriate gift. 
My son 22 is dating a 19 yr girl. What would be an appropriate gift to give her for Christmas? They have been dating about 9 months.

my boyfriends ex of 5 months wants to send his parents thanksgiving cards. 
My boyfriend and I are in college we are very serious though and his old high school ex of 5 months wants to send his parents and grandparents thanksgiving …

Retirement Event 
Is it appropriate to order a corsage for the spouse of a retiree to wear at the retirement party? The retiree will be wearing a Boutonniere.

Sympathy card for my daughter's father-in-law passed away 
My daughter's father-in-law passed away, should the sympathy card only address to my son-in-law or both son-in-law and my daughter? Thanks!

Sending Christmas Cards after a death in the family 
My mother passed away this past summer. For the past several years, my parents have sent out a Holiday Card with photos of the family (mom, dad, kids and …

addressing retirement party invites 
My husband and I are hosting a retirement party for him. He retired 8 mos. ago and wishes to invite the people he worked with and their " significant …

Is it rude or inproper not to answer when someone ask a question? 
My wife has been corresponding with my ex-son-in-law about my grandson's parenting time. Ex-son-in-law thinks that the parenting time should fit his schedule. …

What do you call the 2nd husband of your mother, when your biological dad is still alive 
Mother was married to my biological dad, They separated then divorced and thn she married another man while my Dad was still living. What is etiquette …

Holiday obligations 
My husbands brothers wife recently passed and now my husband wants to invite his brother over for thanksgiving, which I do not mind the brother except …

Should my divorced brother in law keep bringing new women to our house? 
Im feeling awkward around these different women. 3 women in the last year....I dont want to get close to them because I may not see them again. I think …

corsage for formal wine tasting 
is it appropriate to buy a corsage for your date when going to a black-tie wine tasting

Attend cousins graduation or daughters highschool best friends wedding? 
Our daughter is graduating from college in May and my sister(Aunt) just informed me that her family will not be attending because her daughter's high school …

Manners 
My boyfriend, R., of seven months has a 17 year old daughter, O. I have three grown kids of my own. He and I are establishing a wonderful relationship--he …

Ex Work Christmas Party 
I have been invited by an Ex Co-worker to my ex employers Christmas Party. I left on good terms, I left to advance my career and felt I had no where to …

Proper Sympathy Card Address 
My Niece's Father-in-law passed away, and I want to send a sympathy card. Do I address it to my Niece, to her Husband, or both as in Mr & Mrs?

what should i write? 
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and half, two years ago today his 8 year old nephew passed away in a car accident. I am expected to go …

FUNERAL GIFT 
SHOULD YOU SEND SOMETHING TO A FUTURE GRAND DAUGHTER IN LAW FOR THE DEATH OF HER GRANDFATHER?

Signing off card 
How do we sign off a card on a gift to our daughter and her boyfriend?

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Celebrating 1st wedding anniversary after death of groom. 
This year my parents would be celebrating their 38th wedding anniversary. Sadly, my father rather suddenly passed away in January so this anniversary and …

Thanksgiving dinner invitation 
Back in Sept. friends invited my husband and I for Thanksgiving dinner and we accepted. We just received an invitation from my nephew and his wife and …

Baptism gift from family member 
What type of gift is appropriate to give if you are a great aunt and an aunt

Should my husband children be sending flowers to him on their parents anniversary now that he is remarriied? 
My husbands children sent flowers and an edible arrangement to him for their parents anniversary. He is now remarried. She died almost 4 years ago and …

Register for gifts even tho you already have things? 
My sister and her fiancé have been living together for 2 1/2 years and just recently built a new house. He will be 40 and she will be 36 at the time of …

Ex-daughter in-law of the deceased. Where do I sit? 
I just attended the funeral of my former mother in-law and the grandmother of my children. I have maintained a close relationship with my ex-husband of …

Inviting half siblings to your wedding 
I am 29 years old and will be getting married soon. I have two teenage half-siblings ages 14 and 15 (we share the same father). My dad and stepmother …

Gift for new girlfriends son 
Hello, I have been talking to someone on an internet dating site. We have not met. Her son's birthday is coming up. Is it inappropriate for her to ask …

signing a birthday card 
How do I sign a birthday card to my daughter's live-in boyfriend?

What kind of gift do I bring to 13th wedding anniversary party 
My family was invited to a friends 13th anniversary party at a restaurant. Not sure what is appropriate to give as a gift?????

Manager's retirement party 
Does a retiree come first or last to their retirement party

How do we ask someone to become potential legal guardian 
My husband and I have a 13 year old son with various disabilities.(Mainly learning disabilities) He seems mostly typical but will never be able to live …

How much money do you give? 
How much money does a godfather give his goddaughter for her baptism what is the rt etiquette?

Do you attend your granddaughters birthday party or nephews sons bar mitzvah? 
My granddaughter will be five On march 31, 2015. My husband's family in California are having a bar mitzvah for his Nephew's son that weekend. Which …

Mom 
My 14 year old son's girlfriends family invited him to celebrate her Dad's bday. Do we get him a gift and if so, what's appropriate? They have been dating …

new girlfriends nieces are very important to her, can I bring them a small gift on first meeting them. 
my new girlfriend has pretty much raised her nieces from when they were very young. I am going to my girlfriends house where her nieces will be tonight …

Gifts for Godparents at Baptism 
My grandson is 8 years old and will be baptized in early November and will be having godparents at the ceremony. His mom needs to get them small gifts …

acknowledging wedding anniversary when spouse has died 
send flowers on date of wedding anniversary?

How to handle gifts given to recently deceased. 
What is the proper etiquette for handling the items that were gifts given to a relative that is recently deceased ? Should they be returned to each respective …

opinions on hat choices 
I was ask if a hat looked okay by a lady shopping,I replied telling her which style suited her based on her height and overall stature. I stated to her …

Christmas Gift Giving Etiquette 
One of my sons has a live-in girlfriend of 2 yrs. My other son just recently got married. Should I spend the same on each of the girls Christmas Gifts? …

What to give my date to a business black tie dinner party 
Is it proper to give my female date a corsage when attending a business black tie dinner party?

Meeting his daughter for the first time on her birthday 
My question is should I bring a gift? And what should I wear to dinner?

Birthday celebration - Jewish HOliday 
I have a girlfriend who is having a Jewish dinner at her house on Wednesday night. Apparently, the mother, father and sister and the sister kids are …

25th anniversary party for best friends  
How much money should I give

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do i have to attend a niece's birthday party? 
My brother is married and his wife's child from a previous relationship is my niece. She has been in our family since she was a year old. They are divorcing …

declining a dinner invitation from someone who has hurt me and acts like nothing happened 
My husband and I have recently been hurt by a group that we used to be social with. They have all acted as if nothing has happened and we have dropped …

Restaurant opening 
Should I send flowers to a new restaurant which is partially my daughter's?

how to observe parents wedding anniversary after father's death at daughter's engagement party 
My youngest daughter is engaged and her fiancé's aunt is hosting an engagement party for them. The date of the engagement party is the same date as would …

should I buy a gift 
My daughter is getting married in a few months. I have spent a few holidays with my future son-in-laws mom and we stay in touch periodically via social …

Retirement Party Disagreement - Who should pay? 
Two doctors from our practice of five doctors are retiring. The staff cannot agree on what to do for their retirement. Some staff want to do a big semi …

wedding etiquette 
I was invited to an office bridal shower, but not to the wedding. Do I go to the shower?

Continue giving birthday money to son-in-law now that my daughter has died and he is in another relationship 
I give money to all of my children and their spouses for their birthdays. My daughter passed away six years ago and my son-in-law is now in a relationship. …

how to sign a card 
My boyfriend's mother wants to know how she should sign a birthday card to my daughter since we are not married nor are we engaged.

Wedding gift to fomer boyfriend of daughter 
Our daugther's former boyfriend whom we adored just married. He had proposed to her and my daughter wasn't ready. They remianed friends but our families …

RSVP etiquette  
A small dinner party is being planned for 10. All guests have been asked to RSVP. My sister and spouse have not replied and I'm afraid that they're going …

Son's girlfriend's parents 
When should the two sets of parents meet and who should initiate meeting?

Hostesses responsibilities to guests at dinner! 
I seem to be the only one who thinks it is impolite for a hostess and/or host to get up from the dinner table before coffee or dessert is served and do …

How do I sign a congratulations on your new home letter? 
My daughter and her boyfriend have just bought a house together. I am sending them a congratulations letter, but feel awkward signing Mom and Dad, since …

my husband's niece is good friends with my ex's wife... 
Should I be bothered (really irritated) that my niece, my husband's brother's daughter, is really good friends with my ex whom I was in a 7yr relationship …

Good baptism gift? 
My husband and I have been asked to be godparents. We are very honored and plan on making the 4 hour trip in a month. The 7 year old girl we are now going …

Retirement Invitation 
Is it a major problem when your co worker(female) sends an invitation to house and only puts my name(male) on invite and not Mr. And Mrs. But verbally …

Visitors 
I live in a resort city. When friends from out of state come to visit, if we meet up with them for lunch or dinner; who is expected to pay the tab?

bridal shower  
I am the Grandfather's girlfriend. Am I expected to pay/help with the bridal shower?

how to reply to husbands ex? 
Husbands ex wife, mother of his 8 year son, bought us a baby gift for our child to be born in January. How do I say thank you, when all I want to do is …

Brother won't attend parents' anniversary party 
I am having a 50th wedding anniversary party for my parents. I have planned this and am paying for all of it on my own. My brother will not attend since …

Nephews baby shower 
My nephew and his wife live 1200 miles away and his family is giving a baby shower for them. I want to send a gift card what is the proper amount?

Gift giving etiquette for going away to college after completing AA degree. 
My nephew is going away to college after completing his AA degree at the local college. This is the first time not living with his family. They are having …

Mother inlaw and Sister in law sign even birthday card and give presents together I have to my daughter 
I have a grown sister inlaw in her thirties. When my daughter has a birthday or anyone else they sign the card and say the present is from both of them. …

husband wants picture of self , x-wife & their grandkids 
My husband wants a picture of himself, X-wife and their grandkids. I am not included. I don't agree, and feel it sends the wrong message to everyone …

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Separation 
What do you do if you are separate not on good terms and spouse becomes seriously ill or passes away

Wedding  
My daughters nephew is getting married.Parens are divorced.Should she still congratulate her former sister ?

not invited to grandchildren outing 
My husband's grandchildren from his previous marriage has invited my husband to attend a festival without me. Should I tag along anyway????

Gift or No? 
If invite says no gift do they really mean it?

Grandparents 50th anniversary gift? 
Dear Ms. Practical Etiquette/Manners, My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months. I have met his family and he has met mine. I have only met …

Mom skips grandaughter's college graduation for distant relative's funeral 
My mom, who lives about an hour away from where my daughter attends college, accepted an invitation to visit with us while we attended our daughter's college …

FOR A HOUSE WARMING PARTY SHOULD ONE SAY IF THEY DON'T WANT GIFTS? 
MY SON AND HIS WIFE OF 6 MONTHS ARE HAVING A HOUSE WARMING PARTY AND THEY DON'T WANT THE GUESTS TO BRING GIFTS. HE THINKS THE INVITATION SHOULD SAY NO …

stepmom at wedding 
I just attended my stepson's wedding two states away from home. We've never been very close in the six years that I've known him. I did contribute 1/3 …

Online First meet in India from US 
I met a guy online who lives in Bangalor. We have been talking by Skype, email and phone everyday for a while now. He wants to come to US to meet me …

Mother 
I am planning my daughter's medical school graduation. Should I send out a " save this date" card

death memorial question 
I had an old girlfriend that was supposed to marry me but before we got to that time things fell apart. her mom had cancer and died along our relationship. …

60th wedding Anniversary party 
How to write thank you notes for restaurant gift cards when no gift were requested

Inviting others 
My friend and I have planned to attend an outing. At the last minute she said another friend of hers would be joining us. Is that acceptable?

Should I buy a gift for a friend of a friend I just met? 
Dear Miss Practical Manners, I am 47 years old and recently met a young girl (I'm pretty sure she's in her 20's) at a regular social function that became …

Family Interaction 
I am living with boyfriend, he has two adult children. He had been alone for three years prior to knowing me, depressed and waiting a woman who had found …

How do you tell someone they are not invited to your wedding? 
My daughter just recently got engaged and my neighbor says " I better be invited to your wedding. I watched you grow up." And one of my cousins sent her …

60th anniversary party 
If I can't attend an anniversary party out of town, is it still necessary to send a gift?

graduation openhouses 
do you have to use your school colors for your high school graduation open house?

Not acknowledged 
My sister never acknowledged ny daughters (her neices) high school graduation. Should I let her know my daughter was surprised and disappointed?

Hostess question 
I am curious, when guests bring wine to a party, do I open their bottle before my own choice?

invited to wedding to ones we have never met 
Do we have to send a gift or attend a wedding (2nd for both) to people we have never met, but met the grooms parents briefly years ago? Thank …

Wedding guest attire 
Should a teen boy wear shorts to a wedding?

Medical School Graduation Announcement 
Is it appropriate to send med school grad announcements after the ceremony and without party invitations, possibly to family and friends so they have the …

Very late gift for grandson! 
Is it in poor taste to send monetary gift very late after birthday and graduation?

Gender role dispute 
My husband family is coming over for the July 4 holiday. I am upset that he is not including me on the food menu plans, but handling everything with his …

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Invited to a 10yr Wedding Anniversary Party, but can't attend? 
I was invited to a friend's 10 yr Anniversary Party, but can't attend. Do I still send a gift? If so, is a monitory gift ok? How much would you suggest? …

Cousins Baby Shower 
Do I need to send a gift for my 2nd cousins baby shower if Im not attending? I live 450 miles away from the town the baby shower is being held my home …

Should I go? 
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months, we planned to finally meet each other's families on July 4th, but his sister just recently passed …

Request to invite another person to a holiday dinner 
My in-laws always spent Thanksgiving with my Father-n-laws adult children and families from his previous marriage. This past year my Father-n-lawn (their …

dad retirement party 
Us kids are throwing our fathers retirement party. Guests will be paying 70.00 for the evening. Should we also pay for dads wife's dinner? Should she contribute …

corsage 
My mother is in very poor health. I do not expect her to live beyond this year. I am in the process of reviewing her final arrangements and would like …

Reception invite 
I was invited by an Indian co-worker to her son's wedding reception. Her son actually got married in India last year. This "other" reception is for his …

Bridal shower (given by aunt in home state) 
My daughter and fiancee are having already large (300) wedding in upstate NY, they both live in NYC. The groom is paying for most of the wedding events. …

fathers day cook out 
children are adults. should ex wife her bf and her father be invited to fathers house for cookout with new girlfriend?

is it okay to take back a gift given 18 years ago.  
when my aunt passed away 18 years ago, my “close” cousin gave me one of her moms rings which i thought was really nice of her. now 18 years later, …

aunt of the groom 
The groom's mother died a few months ago. Feelings are raw and sad. But we support our nephew to marry in November because he needs and loves this woman. …

proper attire 
Is a nice shirt and nice pair of shorts proper attire for a 17 year old to wear to his brother's graduation from medical school?

How to announce my sons girlfriends pregnancy? 
My son and his girlfriend have been together for about two years. They told me a few months ago that she was pregnant and she is due September 9th. As …

Business owner - declining social invites for spouse 
I am a small business owner and in the course of doing business/getting new business, I am often asked to attend social events—and I am encouraged to bring …

Invite deceased brother's wife to wedding? 
Does my daughter have to invite my deceased half-brother's wife to her wedding? She and her future-husband never knew my half-brother or his wife. I wasn't …

Hello 
Should my family attend my husband's sister in law's sister's son's high school graduation party? we've only met him maybe 4 times and my husband's sister …

Confirmation gift 
How much money should I give my neighbor's teenagage son at his Confirmation Party?

Attend HS graduation…Yes or no? 
invited to attend my cousin's graduation. Cousin lives with his mother. Father is not invited. Is it rude for me to attend graduation?

tip jar 
Grandson asking for tips for pouring wine at grandparents 50th wedding anniversary party

Acknowledging a 'Good Morning'.  
Good Morning Miss Practical Manners, My question is about speaking Good Morning at the work place. I am always here first and open shop. My office …

death of husband 
should widows wear black

want best for son 
My son often spends hours and hours with his girlfriend. He just graduated. She is in high school. I've asked him to be home for dinner. He's not doing …

What should you do with cake leftover, but made by the restaurant for your special occasion? 
Four of us went away for my birthday to a lodge. My husband asked them to make a "torte" for me (unbeknownst to me). They made a flourless chocolate cake …

Never received a thank you for a gift, now asked to give another gift 
We gave our friend's daughter money for a school trip she took several years ago. We never received any acknowledgment or thank you for the money. We have …

Graduation party for masters degree 
My son is graduating with a masters, can I throw a party?

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Corsages for my deceased husband's parents at my wedding. 
I have been a widow for 7 years now. My husband died when we were 33. I have two children and I have tried to stay close with my in-laws. We have a …

gift for a master's degree at a restaurant that we are expected to pay for food and drink 
We are invited to an open house for a master's degree at a restaurant where we are expected to pay for food and drinks. Do we need to bring a gift?

Dinner Party 
I've been invited to a dinner party celebrating a college graduate, ,medical school graduate and wedding anniversary. What should I bring as a gift? …

Multiple Events 
both same time- daughters mother in law's funeral or granddaughters 17th birthday party?

Do I need to bring a gift to my wife's retirement party later this afternoon? 
My wife is retiring from her practice and there is a retirement party for her at the hospital where she has worked. I have ordered 2 dozen beautiful roses …

Adult only reception 
We are having a small but very elegant wedding and our venue has limited us to a small number of guests so the guest list has been tricky! One decision …

Visting the girlfriends family 
My son is traveling Philly, to spend a long weekend with her family, what should he bring as a thank you for her mother? Flowers and candy?

my husband is refusing to go to my little brother and sister has graduation. I don't think it is right. need opinion please? 
My little brother and sister stood up in our wedding. It is very important to me and he doesn't see my point. All I want is for him to sit with me at their …

Early Graduation Gift  
My son was sent a graduation gift for high school graduation, however he doesnt graduate until next year. How does he respond?

No Boundaries 
My wife and I attended a party recently and her boss asked us, off topic, if we ever had an open relationship. Aghast, I blurted out, "NO! NO!" My response …

What to give? 
What do es one give a one year old for a baptism gift

funeral question 
Is it necessary to send an acknowledgment card to each person who came to the visitation at a funeral?

Graduation gift for brother of my daughter's best friend? 
We received a graduation announcement and invitation to an "open house" celebration from the brother of our daughter's best friend. We are cordial …

Sons girlfriends parents 
Meeting my son's girlfriend's parents for the first time. What gift should I bring?

Best way to respond to a greeting. 
I have always been told when asked "How are you?" to respond "Well, thank you" But what happens when the other person says "well" when asked and then …

anniversary death 
I have been invited to church to celebrate an anniversy of a one year death of my friends daughter. Can I gove money and a card

should fiances ex call his family aunt, uncle.... 
My fiances ex keeps referring to HIS family members as her grandpa, cousin, aunt, uncle...etc and she is remarried now. What would be apprpriate if any …

Graduation gift 
My deceased son left me in charge of moneys for his daughter, she is graduating high school and I would like to give the money to her in a card how should …

announcing actual monetary amounts from scholarship for specific students during awards night 
would like to know if it is proper for administration to announce the actual monetary amount awarded by universities and colleges during high school award …

Cancel Wedding RSVP 
I accepted an invitation to a wedding (sit down dinner) and I find I must cancel. I am a friend of the groom's mother, but other than that, know no one, …

girl friends grand daughters graduation 
I was invited to attend my girlfriend of one year grand daughters Graduation out of town. Should I go? Her husband passed away 4 yes Ago and she wants …

Graduation Party Invite 
Received a Graduation Party Invite from an old office worker I haven't been in contact with for years. Have never met the daugther that is graduating. …

Private party for graduate 
How should we include the Graduates fiancee, also a graduate, on the private party invitation from his family

unsolicited advice 
My son insists that we, as his parents, are disrespecting him by not listening to his unsolicited advice. I disagree. I believe that he is disrespecting, …

registry wedding gifts 
Do I have to give the bride and groom a gift from their registry? Everything is taken. I loathe the thought of donating to their "honeyfund."!

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How can I make things up to my sister for not attending her graduation dinner?  
My sister recently graduated with a Master's Degree in Nursing. I attended the ceremony and it was very nice. I was also invited to the dinner. After …

neices long time boyfriend graduating 
Should I give him a gift or a card?

ENGAGEMENT 
WHAT IS A PARENTS RESPONSIBILITY WHEN A SON GETS ENGAGED?

Graduation Dilemma 
My boyfriend, of over 2 years, and I broke up on May 6, 2014; 2 weeks ago this Tuesday. His daughter is graduating high school on May 22nd. Should I send …

Mother and daughter works in a gym 
Daughter is leaving June 1.....mother wants us to throw a good by party for her.... Not to mean we do not usually throw farewell party, how do we answer …

graduation gift for nephew when my sister spoke badly of me 
My sister stopped speaking to me two years ago. The details are lengthy and childish on her behalf. Since then she has told our parents that I never …

It's right take my son to a vacation without his partner? 
I want to take my daughter, 30 and my son,28 to a vacation because long time we dont do that and I finish my Divorce now, but I'd like to don't go with …

Baby gift for ex coworker? 
So a co-worker of mine at a job I had last year is pregnant with her first child. We got a long great and have stayed in touch whenever I'm in town. I …

Gift  
Should I get a birthday present for my granddaughters boyfriend ?

Miss Inquiry 
If I am not invited to the wedding even though I am (or I thought I was) the MOB's best friend for many, many years, am I expected to provide a gift? I …

quitting my career 
My boyfriend is of means I won't say he is filthy rich but he is very comfortable. i work and have always worked he is retired. He wants me to quit my …

party invitation etiquette 
Is it appropriate to put "no pets please" on a party invitation

Should I feel obligated to attend because we are related? 
My cousin is hosting a baby shower for her daughter in law this summer. My initial feeling was to not attend. I actually was shocked that I was invited …

Gifting the Graduate? 
I received a college graduation announcement from my neighbors daughter. Do I owe a gift?

Graduation gift? 
My good friend had her granddaughter send us a graduation announcement and I have only met the young lady once. What is the proper way to handle this, …

Wedding program question 
How do you list a divorced man (my brother)and his two daughters on a wedding program? With commas or ands separating them?

Hurt by a friend 
I was introduced to a gal who had no American friends in this country. I invited her into my tennis group; invited her to every social event I could think …

Engagement Party Etiquette 
When a couple becomes engaged, who should give them an egangement party? Can they give themselves a party ?

Furniture vs Heavy Neighbor 
I live in a condo and occasionally an overweight neighbor pops in. The problem is my barstools have a weight capacity that he greatly exceeds. How do …

announcements for 2nd wedding  
My daughter just got married for the 2nd time. She and her husband want to send out announcements and include their web site where people can contribute …

gifts for speakers/performers 
I am on a committee planning a tribute for our Rabbi, who is retiring. Entertainment is being provider by three women, one man, all from the congregation. …

Friend "shares" my food in restaurants 
I have a friend who has a little more money than I do and she takes me out to eat once a week. Since it's such a kind gesture, I feel I can't complain …

Grandmother of the Bride to be on her fathers side. 
I received an invitation to my granddaughters Bridal Shower. The invitation said the couple is not registered anywhere because they want cash money instead …

Hostess gift for ex husbands new wife 
I am attending a wedding party for my son and his wife at my son's fathers' house. It is a gathering of my ex-husband's friends. I want to take a hostess …

Wedding RSVP 
Dilemma: First let me start with- My boyfriend Sean has a cousin (Nathan) who he’s close with in person. They don’t really talk on the phone or hang. But …

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Introduction of new boyfriend 
I am a father of 2. 11 year old girl, 13 year old boy. My sister-in-law has just let us know she's getting a divorce after 10 years, due to another …

high school graduation  
Hi, I have been going with my girlfriend for 2 years and have met her family , aunts, uncles & cousins can I invite them

How should a widow act on a first date? 
I've been a widow for nearly 4 years and am attempting to start dating (yikes!). I've not taken off my wedding ring since we got married, except when he …

Do I still have a mother in law 
Ok I was made a widow a few years ago but I never know how to refer to my late husbands mother is she still my mother in law or not. Secondly I'm getting …

May a dinner guest invite more guests? 
Our niece, who is in the Air Force and stationed in Las Vegas, called on a Friday to let us know that she and two colleagues were driving down to San Antonio …

How do parents sign a greeting card given to a son, daughter-in-law & grandkids? 
Do you sign: Mom & Dad, your personal names, Grandma & Grandpa or All of the above?

Bringing own Liquor to Dinner 
If invited to a small dinner in someone's home, is it OK to bring your own liquor of choice? These people serve wine, but I'm not a wine drinker.

Regina 
i want to personalize some note cards for my husband and myself whose name goes first ours would be Dr. Wilfred Raine Mrs. Regina Raine i thought …

Gift for Boss 
My boss and I have a good working relationship and friendship. His daughter is about to give birth to a little boy and I would like to buy the baby a small …

Masters Graduation Notice to all for Poor Future Teacher? 
My daughter is graduating with her masters in a month or so. We notified no one at all when she graduated college last year. Wanted to just send out …

early graduation parties 
Is it ok to throw a party to celebrate a high school graduation one week before the actual graduation ceremony? It is so difficult to find a date after …

As a Mother, am I making a big deal about being the one who wants to take my daughter for her special occasion dresses. 
I have primary custody of my 15 year old daughter since my ex husband and I divorced 10 years ago. we have 3 other older children who are young adults. …

Should a recently widowed sister pay as much for a family gift as her brothers and sisters and their wives 
Should a recently widowed sister pay as much for a family gift as her brothers and sisters and their spouses? Six months ago our sister lost her husband …

Taboo Conversation Topics: Money and Fake Invitations 
Dear Miss Manners, Ever since I married my spouse, one of our relatives has always found a way to insert into conversations with us how much money they …

Multi-tasking while talking on phone 
I have a dear friend of many years with whom I attended nursing school. She and her family moved to another state twenty years ago but we have maintained …

Senior 1st date question 
MEETING A DATE FOR 1ST TIME AT A RESTAURANT W/RESERVATIONS-- DO i WAIT INSIDE, OUTSIDE OR JUST BE SEATED AND WAIT?

Uninvited guest 
Invitation for four adult couples to dinner in a restaurant..one couple brings their teen age grandson to dinner.

sisters not envites to nephews wedding 
I come from a large family. We have had our share of UPS and downs but me and my 2 sisters have always remained friends. My sisters husband and I don't …

double baptism 
My brother and I have children who were born a few months apart, and we are having them baptized together. What is the etiquette for invitations? We …

Wearing white do's and dont's 
When should we not where white clothing?

name for person you live with instead of marriage 
I am 66 yrs. old and live with a man who is 69. When introducing him I should refer to him as? I don't like the title boyfriend at our age.

Med school graduation  
What should I wear to my sons medical school graduation. It's at NYC in May . Pants with a Jacket or a dress.

Gift giving for son's girlfriend's daughter 
My extended family gives Christmas gifts to my grandchildren but not my son's live-in girlfriend's daughter which creates an uncomfortable situation. Is …

doodle 
when my aunt died 20 years ago, her daughter kindly gave me one of her mom's rings. we were very close and i was thrilled. now 20 years later, my cousin …

Smelly Roomates 
How do you tell a new roomate that the smell and need to bathe more often and wash clothese more often. The smell is permeating through my house now, …

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Hosting a girls night out for my soon to wed girlfriend 
I'm hosting a girls night out(bridal party) for a dear girlfriend, the number of women keep growing...am I obligated to pick up the tab?

Baptism Gift? 
When attending a baptismal is a gift necessary?

short skirt  
I work in a lawfirm with female partners. I just saw the back view of her skirt and the slit is so high up that I can see the panty part of her hose. …

When my boyfriend meets my dad at dinner for the first time, who should get the check? 
When my boyfriend meets my dad at dinner for the first time, who should get the check? I have been dating my boyfriend for about 7 months, and he will …

Graduation announcements 
How should graduation announcements be worded (or wedding invitations, for that matter) when one of the parents has died?

Son and girlfriend birthday gifts 
If my son and his girlfriend live together, should I give them the same amount for each of their birthdays?

Entering a blog about meeting son's girlfriend's mother for her birthday? 
Have been asked to enter a blog/email about son's girlfriends mother. It's her birthday, & daughter is going to surprise her with comments and emails …

Do you bring a gift to an engagement party? 
Do you bring a gift to an engagement party? I am unable to attend the party, should I send a gift ahead of time?

Gift trade-in 
I recently received a gently used IPad 1st Gen. from a church member (I am a pastor). She said she could not use it and thought I might be able to. I …

step mother or father's wife? 
My father has remarried and my mother has passed away. I am married and am wondering is his new wife considered my step mother or is it okay to refer to …

mother of the groom 
2sons getting married within 6 weeks of each other I would like to have one wedding shower honoring both bride to be

Divorced parents 
My husbands parents got divorced and remarried when he and his sister were 16 and 17. His mom has been remarried for 27 years and is very upset that her …

New girlfriends niece gift? 
I am meeting my new girlfriends niece for the first time tonight at her first communion's dinner party. Should I get her some kind of gift/card?

Baby shower attendance  
I'm hosting a baby shower for my strop daughter. When I asked her for a list of names to invite, I noticed that several people on the list had already …

Do I take a gift? 
My boyfriend and I have been going out for about a month. He has invited me to go to his Sisters family birthday dinner. I know he is buying her a gift. …

Med School Graduation 
Our son graduates this May from Medical School. He doesn't have a penny to his name, and has invited most of the extended family to the ceremony. We want …

wedding 
My future mother in law's wants to invite her boyfriend's adult children to our wedding. We are on a budget. Can you let me know what to do. Thank you …

9 year old grand daughter baptism in church  
Do we as grandparents give a gift if so what kind of gift would I give,

How to ask for a gift... 
I am going to be graduating from college soon. That same week is going to be my birthday. I am having a small get together after the ceremony and inviting …

Boyfriends ex-wife 
My boyfriends ex wife has invited us to their daughters 6th birthday party. I wouldn't feel right showing up empty handed. What is an appropriate hostess …

do we gift dad, who is 78, 3rd marriage, a wedding gift?? 
my father in law is marrying his 3rd wife. he is 78 years old. we do not support his decision but that may or may not be relevant. do we get them a gift …

step mother 
What is appropriate for the step mother to wear to her step daughters wedding? Her mother is still alive,Ido not expect to play a part in this wedding,but …

When is birthday gift appropriate? 
I am meeting my sons girlfriend and her mother for the first time. The girlfriend has invited me to join her and her mother for lunch to celebrate her …

cocktail 
Iam attending an event and the dress code reads "cocktail". For a man what does that mean?

Donating to scholarship fund 
Our daughter received a financial scholarship to participate in an orchestra. The organization is having a gala and the tickets are over $250 each. The …

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OPENING THE DOOR 
Hi ! Hello !! It is understood that its good manners to always open the door for a lady. While the door swings outwards, there is no problem but in …

Gift from divorced father who is giving the daughter away 
Father and mother are divorced, but daughter wants him to give her away. He purchased two engraved wine glasses as a gift to the couple, but is this a …

Restaurant Choice 
My husbands boss invited him to dine at a restaurant that my husband and I go to every year on our anniversary. I feel like my husband should suggest another …

gift giving timetable. 
You are unable to attend a baby shower. How log do you have to send a gift?

payback 
wife and i went to a restaurant the other day. man who sold me my furnace was eating. we exchanged pleasantries. upon finishing his meal he left. when …

step children n step parent family 
I was trying to find out if it normal for my step daughter to date one of my cousins nephews? I am confused and getting no where. Can you help?

Gift Amount 
How much is the proper amount for a christening gift ?? Nephews baby. Thanks

invisible 
I have been living with my common law spouse for seven years. We both have children from our previous relationships. When we send out cards we include …

not invite someone who expects to be invited 
I do not want to invite my uncle's live in girlfriend 25+ years- she is obnoxious-and no one likes her or wants to be seated at the same table with her …

death of married son 
I know my married son is dying of cancer. He has a wonderful wife and mother of six of my grandchildren. However she is very controlling of my son's …

jewelry at funeral 
My mother just passed away leaving me her pearl necklace. Would it be appropriate to wear them at the service

Christmas gifts 
My ex has remarried and had two additional children with her new husband. When I buy a Christmas gift for my child, must I buy gifts for her new children(my …

My ex-husbands best friend invited our 15yr old daughter to join their family on their spring break vacation, who pays for what? 
Miss Manners, My ex-husbands best friend sent me a text inviting our 15yr old daughter to join their family for their spring break vacation this April …

Corsage Baby Shower 
I am planning a coed baby shower with a circus theme for the baby boy! Do I provide a corsage for mom and dad-to-be as well as both grandparents-to-be? …

Christmas card from my ex's family members 
Hello, I believe my ex's family members don't know we were divorced in Aug 2013 after 29 years of marriage. It was a nasty divorced because he married …

gift giving to the ex??? 
I have lived with my boyfriend now for almost 5 years .. he has given his ex a Christmas gift every year, along with birthday cards and gifts without telling …

Graduation gift? 
When my daughter graduated last year she was given a $500 check from my sister. This is an unusually large amount of money for my extended family. Am I …

Excessive Gift from Co-worker 
I received a Christmas card with two $50 gift cards from the wife of a co-worker. The co-workers wife signed one gift card from the co-worker and the …

Step Mom 
My step daughter whom is 21 has a boyfriend whom is disrespectful toward me. Last year he gave me a card and my husband a very nice gift. Should my husband …

Christmas Gift Giving 
My husband and I have been married for 20 years and I have a son from a pervious marriage, he's now 23. So that being said my husband has been with my …

Brother in laws GIrlfriend 
My brother in law is bringing his girlfriend of less than 2 months to Christmas with the family this year. What is an appropriate gift to give her? I don't …

birthday gifts 
Do you buy a birthday gift for your son's girlfriend of 2yrs?

sending a Christmas card to my wonderful ex in laws 
I have always sent my ex mother in law and father in law Christmas cards. This will be the first year Mr Doyle is not with us. I have put off the sending …

Saddened in Seattle 
Dear Miss Practica Manners; My mother-in-law just passed away last week. I have not gotten my Christmas cards out to her and my father-in-law yet. In …

Sons' girlfriends 
My sons both have girlfriends this christmas should I as the boys mother buy the girls gifts from me and my husband?

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How to address an envelope 
My nephew lives with his girlfriend. They have a son.how do I address a card to them?

Frustrated daughter-in-law 
When my husband and I married, we agreed to spend thanksgiving with his family and Christmas with my family. We actually exchanged gifts with his family …

Give BFs daughters gifts? 
Is it appropriate to give my boyfriend I have known via email just over a year and we live in different states his daughters that are a grown and I haven't …

Son's serious girlfriend 
My son wants me to meet his girl friend's parents. Should I host a dinner or should I go to their house for dinner?

Calling 
If a person lets others know that they are taking a job in another state, who is the one that calls about the day leaving? The person who wants to know …

Graduation Gift 
My husband's daughter is finally graduating from college at 28! Anyway, how do I ask her mother if she would like to give a party with us?

How do I address a card to our daughter and son in law  
I want to send a Christmas card to my/our daughter and her husband. We have a wonderful relationship with our son inlaw but he doesn't call us mom and …

funeral etiquette 
If a funeral announcement says the family requests a donation to a charity be made in lieu of flowers, is there a way for the family to see who made a …

Being asked (but not invited) to a clients Christmas party. 
We are a subcontractor in the Construction business and times are tough. We were recently sent an email asking our company to make a donation to a General …

Widow 
How do you address an envelope for a woman whose husband has died?

ex baby mother 
Is it appropiate for your husband's father to invite my husband's ex-girlfriend who is his first son's mother to his grandmother's birthday dinner.

Unsure gift 
My partner and I went our separate ways after 8 years. This happened 6 weeks ago. Received a birthday card scratch lotto ticket in mail from his grandmother …

Are step children to be included in all extended functions? 
I'm a 42 y/o mother of a 9 y/o daughter. My biological brother is remarried now one year and has one biological son and two step sons. My daughter does …

Senior deceased..who gets the ring 
I was very close with a woman, she was like a second mom to me. She had always wanted a ring and I bought her one. She lived in poverty. She also lived …

father & Mother 
The parents of my daughters future fiance'have invited my wife and I and our Grandchildren to a country club for Thanksgiving diner. They are both in their …

Thanksgiving Invitations 
Our daughter Oldiest is hosting Thanksgiving holiday dinner( her natural mother will also attend. She mails out A Thanksgiving card addressed to her …

Can I invite an ex coworker to company party 
Can I invite an ex coworker to company party? A co worker of mine would like to invite an ex coworker to our company xmas party. The ex-coworker was …

Gift for hostess? 
I have been invited to Thanksgiving dinner. Should I bring a gift for the hostess? If so, what would be appropriate?

Do I have to call or wait for people to call me when I am visiting another town?? 
I have a friend who just arrive from overseas. My friend's sister always thinks that every friend has to call the visiting sister to say HI. But I insist …

invited to wedding anniversary party 
Am I expected to take a gift?

Is this the proper way for introductions? 
Hello, and thank you for taking my question. My name is Evander, and I am sixteen years of age. I was raised in a very formal family, and recently began …

Do I get everyone an individual gift? 
I just started getting very serious with this guy in august. We both have children from previous marriages. Christmas is coming up and I fully plan on …

Inviting someone you have never met to family dinner? 
My daughter has a new boyfriend and my husband and I have only met him once. Our daughter thinks his daughter should be present at our Thanksgiving dinner. …

X mas gift. 
I would love to know if its appropriate to give my boyfriend daughters a X mas gift I just met them 4 weeks ago and by the way two of them 22 and 15 year …

Last Minute Lunch Cancellations 
A friend has cancelled our lunch date twice in a row. One was cancelled within an hour of our set time and the other, a day head. What is protocol in this …

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Signing the card for gifts to my boyfriend's daughter 
Hello, I was wondering what the etiquette would be to sign my name on the gifts that my boyfriend and I are sending his daughter? He has been divorced …

sympathy card 
I have a girlfriend (which is married) and her father has passed away. How do I address the envelope for my sympathy card?I did not know the deceased very …

Step-Mother 
Is it polite for my step-mother to invite my ex-husband to our family events at my father and step-mothers house? We all have to drive several hours to …

Christmas Gift for Son's Girlfriend 
What is appropriate for gift giving your son's girlfriend of less than a year? He is talking of proposing this Christmas, and we have decided to do monetary …

How to include deceased mothers name on baby shower invitation 
I'm hosting a baby shower for my daughter-in-law, it is their 1st child. Unfortunately, Stacie (D-I-L) lost her mom this past Oct. It would be both, our …

Graduation party dilemma - ex step daughters 
I am dating a man who was previously married. She had 2 daughters from a previous relationship, plus a son with my boyfriend. They were together for …

wedding ring for bride 
How much salary percent is bride wedding ring suppose to cost?

not offered dessert 
I was at my son's house the other day and my daughter-in-law offered her husband dessert and then ate the last piece herself without offering any to me. …

My father just passed away, I didn't have a relationship with him for the last few years 
My mother said I wasn't invited to the wake or the funeral. Can I still go? I have 5 sisters and only 2 speak with me. I am grieving the loss of my …

Donations instead of gifts?!?  
We are having a reception for my husbands parents 50th wedding anniversary in a few months. They lost their only other child, Susan, a little less than …

Do we include all grandchildren in the gift? 
My husband and I would like to give our mothers a grandmother's necklace for Christmas. I have three children from a former marriage and we have one together. …

Appropriate Thanksgiving dinner invitees 
Hello I'm seeking an opinion on whether it is appropriate for my sister to ask me to invite her daughter's boyfriend's parents to the family thanksgiving …

Thank you note 
When invited to a friend's home for a big party, would you write a thank you note as you typically would when invited to their home for dinner?

Is it proper for my husband's ex wife to invite us to her home? 
My husband has two adult children with his ex. They have been divorced 15 years. She had an affair and married new hubby right after divorce. We have …

Baffled butterfly 
If you are meeting your boyfriends parents for the first time At a restaurant do you need to bring a gift?

who to dance with 
I am attending a dance with a boy that asked me. Is it appropriate to dance with another boy that has an interest in me that my date knows about?

Boss's son's wedding 
Invited to company owners sons wedding. Evening outdoor event. Many business and local political figures will be there. Yet relaxed down to earth hosts …

No Thank You note yet for wedding gift ... 
I attended a wedding on 4/6/13 and as of today's date - 10/1/13 - we have not yet received a thank you note. We were invited to the wedding because …

Proper RSVP 
I was invited to a wedding prior to people knowing about my divorce. The envelope is addressed to Mr. and Mrs. but I have a girlfriend. What is the …

Furniture/Appliance Deliveries 
Should I tip when furniture/appliances are delivered to my home?

What should my son give my ex-sister-in-law as a wedding gift? 
My 13 year old son has been invited to his Godmothers wedding. That is fine, however, she is my ex-sister-in-law. What would be an appropriate gift for …

step grandson 
My son married a girl and she has a son, they just had a baby and I am coming into some money. I wanted to put 1000 in a savings account for him but my …

Giving your back to someone in a group. 
In a group gathering with several friends, some are across the table the others are to my right. I am at the end & the one to my right is totally giving …

What to do with napkin after the meal  
After a meal. I am unsure of how to handle the used napkin. Does one leave it on the table or chair , folded or slightly crumpled? What is the correct …

who to invite to co worker party 
I want to invite people from work but I want only my co-workers and no kids. How do I word that in an invitation

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baby shower for unwed mother 
Is it proper for the friend of the mother of a 22 yr old unwed mother to throw a baby shower

Reference to oneself 
There is a student who--when calling my office--will refer to himself as Mister. ACTUAL CONVERSATION Telephone rings) ME:Good morning, Department …

bridal shower 
If you are invited to a bridal shower but can't go are you supposed to send a gift? Or just take one to the wedding?

Attire 
My husband and I will be traveling in the south in the fall. My mother who is now deceased was from the south. My question is, do people who live in …

Gift for bride  
Does girlfriend of father of bride give a gift?

Response for family functions 
Every year because my husband and I have the room to accommodate our large family, we host Easter, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and a large summer party. Very …

Meeting Grandniece's Boyfriend's Parents 
I got an email from my grandniece asking if I was available to meet her boyfriend's parents but she did not know the time and was to get back to me. …

What is the proper way to thank someone for hosting a baby shower? 
My sister-in-law and mother-in-law are throwing a baby shower for me. What is the proper way for me to thank them for hosting this event?

High School & College Graduation 
We have a child graduating from High School this year and a child graduating from College this year as well. The high school graduate has struggled throughout …

Completely ignored 
I have been in a relationship and living with my fiancé for the past 5 years. During that time I have repeatedly tried to have a relationship with his …

Hostess gifts  
We have a group of friends that get together often for dinner and cards. Dinner is usually " bring your own meat to BBQ" the play cards. Are hostess gifts …

Moving announcement cards  
My family and I moved into our new house almost 4 months ago . Is it too late to send out a 'weve moved ' change of address card to family and friends …

Notice of wedding of 55yr old cou 
Received notice of the marriage of 2nd cousin,they are mid to late fifties. Is it proper to send gift.

Stationary/notecard etiquette 
When writing a thank-you note on a folded style note card, top side has a thin colored border and in same color, in small script, the name of the card …

GRANDMOTHER GIVES TO GRANDKIDS BUT NOT BOYFRIENDS KIDS 
I love my grandchildren and give them several gifts. My daughter has 3 kids by different men and still has relations with a different man. I don't feel …

Wedding Invite 
I have been invited to the wedding of the neighbor across the street. We are casual friends...exercise, walk together. Her step daughter (who I have …

what if anything should I give as birthday gift? 
I've been invited by my fiancée to meet his sisters & brother for a birthday luncheon...I've not met them before because they live out of town...I like …

shower party 
is it okay to used a wedding wrapper for a shower party?

Baptism gift 
as grandparents, how much money do we give our grandchildren for their baptism gift?

Accepting money 
A close family friend is super generous, and anytime we are together, she insists upon paying for the meal, activity, transportation, etc. Growing up, …

wedding hotels and weddings gift  
If we are doing a out of town wedding should we pay for our families hotel??? Also how do we say that we dont need any gifts but then can do cash or …

Godfather at a Loss for Words 
My goddaughter just got engaged and I want to say something meaningful to her on a card to accompany a gift of pearl earrings that I hope she will wear …

Money gift  
How much money is proper to give granddaughter for her first birthday it is going into a colleges fund?

Mom of pregnant daughter. 
I went on disability retirement 10 years ago and lost contact with many of my friends from work due to illness. I recently (in past 3 or 4 months) reunited …

grandfather's birth announcement 
Grandfather of his newborn granddaughter, Lucy, would like to put flowers in the church in her honor. Grandmother died several years ago. Grandfather has …

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Boyfriend's daughters 
Is it proper to bring a gift when meeting boyfriends grown daughters for the first time?

Graduation gift giving 
When invited to a single graduation party held to honor two high school graduates, is the invited party obliged to give a gift to both graduates even though …

Mister 
How do I refer to my brother-n-law's wife? (eg sister-in-law)?

Saying no to neighbors 
I own a vacation rental property. Neighbors relatives wanted to rent last summer. I charged half price because the week was open anyway, and I could …

Etiquette on timely thank you notes for shower & wedding gifts 
Is there a definette time limit as to when thank you cards should be sent after the shower & wedding, other than ASAP? Just wondering if I should start …

grandmother 
I am going to a combined baby baptism for my grandson and his twin cousins who are not related to me. Do I have to give a gift to his cousins?

nomination for membership 
What is the proper salutation for a committee comprising both men and women?

houseguests activities 
When you attend events with out of state guests, should you pay for the activity? i.e. museum, concert...etc

How much money is the right amount 
My cousin with whom I don't see very often is having a party for her son who is going to medical school. What is an appropriate monetary gift to give? …

proper ways to show interest 
I recently went on a first meeting with a gentleman, in which I thought went well. Conversation and company was good. After meeting I texted him …

Should I invite my boss to my department BBQ?  
Hello. I work in a department with about 30 employees. More than half the employees work directly for me. I am trying to help build employee morale …

wedding invitations 
On the invitation, does the bride's name always appear first

First time meeting daughters boyfriend 
My husband and I are divorced by his mothers doing and choice! Today my adult daughter brought her very first serious boyfriend to meet each of us. I was …

Birthday Party 
I have a 2 yr old who was invited to a 6 yr olds family member bowling partyMy son doesn't bowl an I'd only be chasing him around the place What should …

step dad wants to give back ring given to step daughter at wedding 
At my wedding to her step dad he gave her a ring to promise to always take care of her just like her mother for the rest of her life. She was only four …

Wedding invite 
We are deciding to have a very intimate wedding...a ceremony and dinner for 45 at a lovely restaurant. Am I obliged to invite those who have invited me …

Should I attend my boyfriends 1st grandchild baptism 
I have been dating a great guy for 7 months and we are in a serious relationship and our children from both sides all get along and accept one another …

Standing when a woman excuses herself from the dinner table 
Many of the old 1940's movies show the men rising from their chairs at a dinner table when a woman asks to be excused. My questions are, when approximately …

meeting parents of son's girlfriend 
Do I take a gift to meet parents of son's girlfriend? We are meeting in a restaurant for dinner.

Which set of parents are suppose to ask the other set of parents to dinner first? 
Which set of parents are suppose to ask the other set of parents to dinner first? The boyfriends or girlfriends?

Ms or Mrs husband deceased 
My husband is deceased should I be addressed still as Mrs. or am I now just Ms. Should my wedding rings be moved to my right hand?

Acknowledge An Anniversary That Might Have Been 
My ex and I had a "friendly" divorce after 27 years of marriage. I remarried 14 years later and am very happy. My wife and I try to include both of our …

Bridal Shower 
Should the card be made to both Bride and Groom?

Birthday party ettiquette 
I have a friend who every year gives herself an expensive birthday party at a restaurant and she expects each person to pay for himself. If she is hosting …

Asking someone that lives out of town to be a godfather 
Should we plan the christening based on a date that is convient for us or convient foe the godfather since he lives far away and needs to travel by plane? …

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Do we include ex spouses in anniversary announcement? 
My parents are celebrating a Big wedding anniversary. An announcement is going in the paper but...a couple of my siblings are divorced. Should their ex's …

Funeral question 
hi My father-in-law recently passed away in another city. While there for the funeral, we heard from a handful of people by email and only very few …

meeting son's girlfriends parents for first time 
We are meeting at dinner. Who pays?

second baby 
Am I obligated to buy a baby gift for my cousin's second baby? She had another boy.

church secty 
Our church is having a banquet to celebrate the church anniversary. We are having a guest preacher; his ticket complimentary. Who pays for his wife's ticket-he …

two graduates 
My daughter graduated from college, but will be going on for her masters. Do we have a party to celebrate her college graduation?

Graduation Gift 
Our neighbor, (who we've been with twice,) but enjoy talking to when we're outdoors, sent us a graduation invite for their son's graduation party. We …

Thank You Cards  
Is it necessary to acknowledge all get-well cards with a thank you card? Also are e-mail thank you's acceptable?

Multiple celebrations,one party ? 
We need to have an open house, 1st birthday and 10th birthday celebration this summer. I want to have one big party because summer in Maine is so short …

New Home 
My son is Military, just got to his first duty station which is also his first "home". Married just over a year with a new baby, his wife will be relocating …

Proper placement of mothers corsage 
Where do you place the corsage on the mother of the bride? I was raised that it should be the flowers hanging down and the stems up toward the shoulder. …

wedding ettiquette 
do you send a thank you note after attending a wedding and reception?

Hostile hostess help 
My mother in law never calls the house to invite me to family functions, She calls my husband and invites him. He says I am invited too, but in 25 yrs …

Two party invitations on the same day. 
I received two invitations for the same day with different start times. One invitations if for a bridal shower 12:30pm -3:30pm and the other is a baby …

Military Retirement 
Is it proper etiquette to bring a gift for a military retirement? My best friend's husband is retiring from the marines (he's a Colonel) after 30 years. …

50th wedding anniversary party (22 guests in restaurant) 
We plan to host and pay for our 50th anniversary party and would like to know if we have to be there at the restaurant first and also have to stay until …

Proper To Invite Divorced Neice To Christening 
My sisters son was recently divorced a few months ago after an 8 year marriage. My daughter was friendly with our nephews wife, and had invited both my …

Should father of groom's girlfriend have corsage? 
Hi, I am the father of the groom's girlfriend. The groom's mother is deceased. His father is wondering if it is proper for me to have corsage at …

graduate gift 
My niece's graduate from college and my nephew graduate for high school and my nephew is now 18years of age before he turn 18 he has said very very mean …

Death in the Family 
We've RSVP'd for my husband and me to attend a formal wedding out of town in Dallas, Tx this weekend, The bride is a high school classmate of our oldest …

Fathers Day 
I have debated this for a long time and am curious what is the proper answer. My father always considers himself as the king default when it comes to respect. …

couples bridal shower 
When attending a wedding shower for couples should you increase the amount spent on the gift, because 2 people are attending?

Family Company 
I've always heard that like fish, company begins to smell at 3 days ,etc. I would like advice on my wife's wishes to have family over for a month..seems …

Sister relationship some jealousy 
I will be 75yrs old next week. My sister is my only living relative, who lives 20miles from me. My sister feels that I do not need a special invitation …

who pays 
We are meeting our sons soon to be inlaws for the first time. Who pays for lunch?

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cocktail party 
Is it appropriate to bring a hostess gift to a cocktail party?

Who should pay for the airplane ticket? 
I want to invite a special friend to come to my friend's son's wedding with me but he would have to get on a plane to do so. Should I offer to pay for …

Attending wedding reception as a date--do I bring a gift? 
A guy I've been dating for two weeks asked me to his sister's wedding reception. I've never met her. Should I bring a card or gift or just attend as …

Permanent housequests and invitations. 
A dear friend has moved her sister into her home. This friend expects that her sister be included in all invitations that she is extended. The sister …

long/short dresses 
for a 7:30 small wedding does the MOH and BM need to wear long dresses? If they wear short could the mother of bride and groom wear short? groom doesn …

Hanging up the phone  
I was wondering what you do in a situation when somebody hangs the phone up on you while you are still talking. Which approach should you make towards …

No formal invite to wedding 
Our daughter in laws brother is getting married, we assumed we would be invited and the wedding is being paid for by our DIL's parents. My DIL sent me …

Declining an invitation 
Dan and Matt are in their early 20's and live at their respective homes because they have high-functioning autism. They each have very circumscribed interests---Dan …

Wedding Question 
my sister is divorced and her son is getting married on the west coast where his father also lives. the family(4 members) are traveling from the east coast …

Coworker Grandfather Birthday 
i've been invited to a co-worker's grandfather's birthday party. Is a gift required? What would be an appropriate gift?

Regarding rehearsal dinner & reception 
My boyfriend's ex stepson is getting married & his name is on invitation as the father. He helped raise them & never adopted them. Since he is listed …

Homemaker 
Proper way to serve entrée and later remove plate when finished-- i.e. ? serve from the left and remove from the right?

GREETINGS 
WHO IS SUPPOSE TO SPEAK FIRST WHEN ENTERING SOMEONE'S HOUSE? THE VISITOR OR THE HOST/HOSTESS?

High school graduation 
Is it appropriate for the ex wife to invite her ex husbands family to dinner when her son hasn't even been to her house in two years? I'm the upset step …

Graduation gift for niece only or for boyfriend, too?  
My niece just graduated college. I want to send her a check just as I did for her brother, my nephew, when he graduated several years ago. Her boyfriend …

Non-invitation to friend's retirement party 
My best friend is retiring at the end of this month. We worked at the same agency but at different locations. Her current co-workers would not know me. …

Should my ex have brought his girlfriend to our twins communion? 
My ex and I have been broken-up for 2 years. He has been dating a girl he says he loves for 1.5 years. His family came for our twin sons first communion. …

sticky wicked 
What is proper when son's girlfriend's mom is giving a baby shower and you aren't particularly close to the mom to be? I was going to give her a shower …

Sister In Law's Wedding, husband and I separated. Should I go? 
My husband and I recently separated (less than a week ago). His sister's wedding is this weekend. We where both invited over 6 months ago. I initiated …

How do I get introduced in wedding party? 
I am the mother of the bride whom is going to do her wedding for her. My question is how do I get introduced going into the wedding resption? is it just …

Ex is bringing her boyfriend to our daughters Holy Commmunion 
What should i do here? She won't let me sit beside my 2 daughters and her at my youngest Holy Communion. I thought both parents should be sitting beside …

Birthday Party 
My sister is having a casual birthday party cookout for my nephew at her house. I asked her if I could bring my sister-in-law's 2 kids to the party, they …

High School Graduation Invitation. 
My husbands niece is graduating from High School in 2 weeks & we have not received an invitation. We did receive invitations to his other 2 niece's graduations. …

daughters graduation 
My daughters dad and I are separated and the divorce is not going well at all. no one in my family likes him and my daughter is very upset with me that …

Bare feet on chair 
Is it rude for house guests to put their bare feet on the chair?

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Rehearsal Dinner Guest List 
My husband and I are on a VERY tight budget and wondering if we must invite the bridesmaids/groomsmen each with a guest/boyfriend/husband to a rehearsal …

proper gift amount for my daughters sister in law? 
My daughter and her sister n law are graduate students for RN. What is the proper amount, if any we should buy for this girl?

Is it ok to donate scholarship money I have received 
My son competed for and was awarded a scholarship from an employee association at my job. He recently learned of a young woman who lost both her parents …

Send graduation invitations to hostesses of a party? 
My granddaughter is graduating from high school in two weeks. A group of eight ladies (friends of my daughter) honored her with an outside sit-down formal …

baptismal etiquette 
Do i invite my other son's girlfriend's parents to his brother's daughter's baptism?

High School graduation dinner at a restaurant 
Hi!!! After my daughter's high school graduation ceremony, I indicated what restaurant we will be going to celebrate. I just don't know how to let them …

CoWorker Granddaughter Graduation Announcement 
Several coworkers received graduation announcements for another coworker's granddaughters graduation from High School. What is the appropriate response? …

Ladies being seated at luncheon 
I recently hosted a luncheon for several ladies. When they had gathered at the table I realized they were all standing by their chairs and I didn't know …

mom is the mother of the bride. she is also performing the wedding 
The mother of the bride is performing the wedding. Does she take her place as she would being the mother of the bride, then go to the front and wait for …

Titles for wife 
When in print.. Is it proper to list wife as: Mr. Terry Smith and his wife Jackie or Mrs. Jackie Smith

College graduation anouncements if short 3 credits of graduation? 
My daughter is 3 credits short of receiving her diploma and will take an on-line course to complete her colleg degree. She has ordered announcements and …

Bridal shower etiquette 
Do I need to give a gift to my bridal shower hosts?

left daughter's live- in off invitation list.  
Dear Miss Manners, Our oldest daughter (30)is currently living with a man whom our entire family does not respect. He has earned this disrespect, believe …

Graduation Invites for a two persons party 
My friend and I are hosting a high school graduation party for our sons. It is a small town and we will be inviting a lot of the same people. The invitations …

Close family wedding etiquette - or - what is the right thing to do?... 
One of my husband's nieces is getting married. This is a young woman who has always professed to love us dearly. Through the years, my husband and I have …

Ex-Inlaws Graduation Invitation 
Do you send a high school graduation announcement/invitation to ex inlaws for step grandson? There has not been much interaction with since divorce but …

office nurse x 10 years 
I have worked for a large medical speciality for 10 years and wish to properly tender my resignation as I am entering into retirement. Is is appropriate …

Wording on Save the Date 50th Surprise Anniversary Party  
My sister and I are throwing my parents a surprise 50th wedding anniversary party. We are preparing save the date cards. On the bottom of the card we …

High School Announcments 
Is it proper to send high school graduation announcement to boyfriend of less than one year's parents. Daughter says yes but I am not so sure.

Birthday dinner etiquette 
Dear Ms. Manners, I invited 6 of my friends to go to a $$$ restaurant. We all take each other to dinner on our birthdays but now I am feeling guilty …

My brother has asked my ex-husband to his 60th birthday. 
After a marriage of 16years, my ex and I have been apart now for almost 30years, he has remarried and I have not. During that time relations have been …

graduation brunch for granddaughter 
is it good etiquette for a grandmother to give her granddaughter a high school graduation brunch or tea

Dinner with your husband common law partner and relatives 
My husband son Daniel is going to celebrate his 20th birthday soon and they usually go out for dinner to celebrate it, my husbands sons mother, soms auntie, …

Christening crosses 
I am going to be Godmother to my little nephew. I am Greek Orthodox and the baby will be christened in the Episcopalian Church. I need to know what the …

Greeting a couple. 
When out in public people will greet my husband by his name and completely ignore me. Why do some people do this?

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Owner of house cleaning business 
I have my own house cleaning business and have some of my clients for 13 years. They are like "family" to me. My oldest son is graduating from high school …

Awkward Scenario  
Hi, Just wondering if it is a social faux par to take (as my plus one) my sisters ex boyfriend to her current boyfriends birthday event ( a movie and …

Gift or No Gift 
I received a formal announcement from friends that their daughter was married one March 30th this year in a private ceremony out of town. It closes with …

what to do? 
girlfriend has sisters from out of town visiting. We are meeting for lunch, should I pick up the tab or should girlfriend & I split the tab?

College Graduation 
My son's college graduation is coming up. They provide only 4 tickets. Does my niece come before my boyfriend of 8 years? In other words do I disapoint …

High School Graduation 
I have received a high school graduation notice from a great niece whom I have never met. I have not even seen her mother in many, many years; the only …

wedding gift 
What is correct Etiquette for a wedding gift if I wasn't invited to the wedding or the dinner just the dance. I am also the bridges godfather?

Empty Wine Bottle 
do you return the empty wine bottle upsidedown to the wine bucket

christening gift for an employee 
I am the ceo of an international company and my employee is baptizing his son this weekend. He comes from a large extended Hispanic family so i am guessing …

Glum about Grandpa's Girlfriend 
My husband and I are almost divorced, and I tried to be kind to his new girlfriend. She talked about me behind my back and snubbed me. I accept that, but …

Graduation Ceremony Attendees 
I am completing my Master's Degree in a school that is 5 hours from where my husband, kids and I live (online program). The school happens to be in the …

Birthday gift 
My boyfriend invited me to his nieces 1st Birthday do I purchase a gift for her separate from my boyfriends? Thank you

Email Etiquette 
Hello, I offered out home and 2 dates that we would be able to accomodate a family get together of my Husbands family to one of his cousins. We …

med school graduation 
My son is graduating from medical school and I am wondering who to send announcements to? There are many of his past teachers that I'm sure would like …

FUNERAL ATTENDANCE 
RECENTLY MY DAUGHTER'S MOTHER IN LAW DIED. SHOULD I HAVE SAT WITH FAMILY TO SUPPORT MY DAUGHTER? WHAT IS PROPER?

baptism gift? 
My 19 year old daughter is getting baptized. Is a gift appropriate? If yes what should it be?

Wrong Thank You 
What should I say if anything to a thank you note to me for wrong gift sent to a child's birthday?

birthday gift for wife? 
My wife and i separated 2 weeks ago. Her birthday is in the beginning of April and i am wondering if i am obligated to buy her a gift? She made it clear …

meeting daughter's boyrfriend's parents 
If my daughters boyfriend and his parents will be in our area for his college graduation should I invite them to our home so we can meet them or offer …

Proper time to pay for In-laws 
I have been married for eight years now and my wife just told me that her parents hate it when I pay for stuff. I have paid for one meal over $75 for 6 …

nana needs to know. 
Is it proper to take pictures of a baptism?

giving to co-worker  
When a co-workers family member dies is it proper to collect money and if so where do you draw the line. Step-Parents, Brothers, Sisters, Aunts, Uncles …

Bridal Shower 
Can you invite persons to a Bridal shower and not invite them to the wedding? The Brides parents have friends they are inviting to the wedding. We …

Is it okay? 
I have been dating my girlfriend for about 6 months now. Shortly before we started dating, her and her boyfriend of 7 years, who she had a daughter with …

Death of Co-workers Daughter in Law 
Should flowers be sent to a co-worker for the death of his daughter in law?

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meeting with old high school friend 
I am female. Graduated high school in 1973. Meeting with a lady that I graduated with and was wondering what would be an appropriate gift to bring to meeting? …

Mother giving daughter-in-law a baby shower improper etiquette? 
Is it in poor taste for a mother to give her daughter-in-law a baby shower? Daughter-in-law and all invited live locally. I was told that the closest …

Transitioning Etiquette rules? 
How can I relay the importance of etiquette without creating ill will or embarrassment? How to respond to a "vow ceremony" invitation with an enclosed …

Wedding Anniversary Gift Giving? 
The neighbor's grown children are hosting a 50th wedding anniversary dinner for their parents and all the neighbors are invited. We all live in an active …

Wedding gift etiquette for Niece-in-law 
Couple is in late 20's. Have bought condo together a few years ago and both working in good jobs financially. Bride is my sister's step-daughter. I …

Church AND Party? 
My wife's best friend invited us to her sons first communion. The invitation is for attending the Church communion AND the party afterwards. My wife states, …

Famiy Etiquette 
How do you find your place in a ready made family where the ex is still coming to family gatherings and you're almost the same age as the kids (adult kids)? …

Prefilled or not? 
We are having a semi formal dinner for our fire department and we aren't sure if it is proper to prefill the water and tea glasses or let the guests fill …

Is it proper to bring new boyfriend to daughter's graduation? 
I am a divorced father of 2. I have been divorced for 5 years now. My ex-wife has had her recent boyfriend for the past 2 years. I wanted to know if …

Do you have to invite the whole family to a First Communion? 
My daughter first communion is coming up, close family and friends are invited. My girls wants to invite some of her friends, could we invite only her …

What should I do 
I am meeting a childhood friend I have not seen in 20 years should I take her a gift

The Ex Family 
My ex and I had a child together so his parents and I are close. She is over 2 years old. And we (parents and I) speak every day. My ex and I don't. Lets …

What is the proper response to someome who has sent you flowers? 
I recently received a bouquet of flowers from a friend who just said thank you for being a friend. What is my proper response?

Baptism of 7 year old girl 
What is (are) some perfect gift options?

Baby Shower 
My son and his wife are having a baby in April. His Father and I have not been together for over 25 yrs, he is married with a teen age son of his own. …

Guest 
If inviting a guest for dinner for the first time is it proper to invite another friend for dinner. They are both men friends.?

college graduation party 
Is it proper etiquette to hold a college graduation party this spring for my son who will be getting married next year?

Having 3 children, 7,8 and 10 baptized  
In a private ceremony, with just my husband and I. Everyone says make the donation to the parish that you can afford. I get that, but is there some helpful …

what should a spouse call his wife to his son-in-law? 
My husband calls me "grandma" to our son-in-law when he refers to me. This upsets me since I am the grandmother to his children, but not to him. He should …

Brunch for a Wedding Party 
Is it proper to just invite the ladies of the Wedding Party or do you ask the whole Wedding Party? Some of the people are out of town. This is for our …

How to word an anniversary invitation that will be held at a resort? 
My husband and I want to celebrate our 50th wedding anniversary at a destination resort. It is 300-800 miles from where family and guests live. We are …

high school graduation invitations 
What family members should I (his maternal grandmother) send invitations to? Great Aunts?, my cousins (his 3rd/4th cousins? I talk to some of them occasionally …

what is proper protocol for me to extend to my sister in-law on the death of her mother 
My sister in-law's mother just passed away. She did not contact me, but did my father and he told me. We, she and I, are not close but not unfriendly, …

Bridal Shower Invitation 
I wish to invite a married couple to a bridal shower, as well as their 25 year old son who lives with his mom and dad. Does the son receive a separate …

ex wife 
I am out of town for business and it is my boyfriend of nine years birthday. His ex wife who has been so mean and tried to turn their children against …

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contributions 
How to properly ask co-workers for contributions for another co-workers whose father passed away. used for . Funeral is taken care of. Money is to be …

Opening gifts at a first birthday party 
We were trying to decide whether to open gifts or not for our daughters first birthday. Would it be rude to place on the gift table a card inviting people …

Flowers for the dance 
A friends son is 13 years old and taking a girl to a dance. A girl friend of his date is riding with them to the dance. She doesn't have a date. Is it …

Ring of confusion in Milwaukee, WI 
My mother-in-law recieved a birthday gift from a friend who is 89. This lady never had children but was married 3 times with husbands who had children …

Manners with my boyfriend ex wife. 
Hello, I am really concern about the way I should behave in front of my fiance ex wife. They have a two year old son together, and soon he will be baptized …

Bridal Shower Etiquette 
My nephew is getting married. My daughter and I were invited to the bridal shower. My daughter cannot attend due to work. I will be attending and wondered …

Invited to a new boyfriend's dad's birthday dinner 
I have been dating a guy for two months and just recently, briefly met his family. They asked him to invite me to his dad's upcoming birthday dinner. I …

House warming gifts... 
Dear Miss Manners, I've purchased a house warming gift for a co-worker who has been nice to me. He's a person who I consider a friend. His wife …

9 year old grandson's baptism 
What should the grandmother wear to her 9 year old grandson't baptism?

Funeral Flowers 
My friend's niece passed a few days ago. While having a conversation with my friend she informed me that she was giving her other friends the address to …

Thank you Note 
When you state on a 50th invitaion, No presents please, and some guests give you a present; are you required to write a thank you note.

Engagement Card 
My son and his girlfriend have just announced there engagement. I have gotten them an engagement congratulations card but am unsure how to sign it, do …

Do you reply to cards? 
I've received a host of get well cards and feel like I should acknowledge them somehow but wonder what the rule of thumb is regarding that?

Son's Girlfriend & Husbands 50th birthday celebration? 
Our sons girlfriend is not being invited to my husbands 50th birthday celebration. She was included in our Christmas holiday with immediate family and …

Money for Christening 
What is the acceptable amount to give for a great nieces christening?

Mother-in-Law giving husband's childhood possessions to his niece  
Ms. Practical: My husband and I have been together for 5 years, married for 1.5. My husband was a state champion soccer player throughout his childhood. …

Great Grandmom Gift for Baby Shower 
My daughter is having a baby and the shower is next month. I purhased "grandma" corsages for me and the dad's mom. But what do you give his grandma who …

BABY SHOWER 
I am hosting a baby shower. The honoree wants to also invite the young daughter (12 yrs old) of her sister who will be invited. How should I address …

Half Siblings 
I have 3 grandkids and my son who is the father doesn't see why I buy presents for the kids half brother who his ex wife had with her new husband. I get …

Unexpected death of family member within days of a party 
My siblings and I have planned a rather large 75-100) surprise party for my mother's 80th birthday at an elegant venue with dinner, music, flowers, etc. …

Grandparent  
This is my first grandchild and would like to send an e-mail to my friends and family announcing the arrival. Some of these people do not know my son (nor …

Gift for son's girlfriend 
My son has a fairly serious girlfriend, and she is a runner. I bought her a pair of shwings, which are wings you can put on your shoes, more as a joke …

Bat mitzvah invites 
My husband's sister and brother in law planned a bat mitzvah for their daughter. They had a Friday night service, Friday night dinner at the grandparents …

Tastefully RSVP Seeker not in Canteen IL 
I am having a baby shower for my daughter, the venue a restaurant. I have decided on a served luncheon to accommodate different tastes (vegetarian,etc.) …

Wedding invite ex mother in law  
Do I invite my ex's boyfriends mother to my wedding? We have been friendly even though her son and I split a couple years ago.

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Really? They have to pay for dinner!  
Dear Miss Manners, I have a guestion involving my daughter's mother-in law and the fact that she expects money from her son and my daughter. My son- …

Child birthday party r.s.v.p. 
My son's birthday party is this weekend and I have not yet heard from all of those invited. He wanted to invite the entire class so I do not know all …

Who to invite to graduation ceremony 
I am in an uncomfortable situation. My oldest child is the first to graduate from college. The graduation is one state away from my own home state, so …

Brother and sister not invited to nephews wedding 
my sister and her son, my nephew did not invite my brother and I to his wedding nearly 2 years ago. My sister mentioned to me at my birthday that her …

former sister in law 
Over the holiday...my niece got mad that I did not invite her mother(my former sister-in-law) to my holiday party. I told her it was not polite to ask …

requesting money "in lieu of flowers"  
Is it proper to request money for the family "in lieu of flowers" in an obituary? It seems tacky to me, but rules may have changed.

Ms. A 
Is it ever appropriate for someone you are dating to ask, joke about or suggest that you (his dating partner) buy him a gift and make the connection by …

Baby shower for Step daughter in law 
Is it appropriate to throw a baby shower for her when my friends have not met her?

House Guest 
Iam a college student invited to spend several days at a new friend's home which includes a $3K football ticket to a very sought-after game provided by …

Wedding gift list 
We are getting married both for the 3rd time and have no need for presents. We were going to ask people to give to charity but then I thought. My wife …

Nasty sister in law; great in laws.  
My whole family dislikes my sister in law. However, we enjoy spending time with my in laws. Do we have to invite my sister in law to every dinner party? …

dinner invitation to mom and dad's on minor holiday 
A week and a half in advance, I asked my son and daughter in law to come for dinner on a minor holiday. My son said he had asked his uncle to visit and …

Christmas gift for boyfriend's son? 
I've been dating a man (widower) for 2 years. He has a 20 year old son (away at college most of the time). I'll be spending Christmas morning opening gifts …

how to tell my daughter i wont be attending her bridal shower 
My daughter's wedding shower is being held at her father's home, which is my ex-husband. I would never consider going into his home. It is crossing the …

Gift Giving to Grandkids living with the ex-DIL 
I sent gift cards to my three grandchildren, who live with my ex-daughter-in-law, her boyfriend, and their young son. She (my DIL) sent me a message stating …

Do I buy Xmas gifts for ex-wife and new girlfriend? 
My son is bringing his ex-wife and new girlfriends for Christmas. My grandchildren will be there and I spend a lot of money on them for gifts. I usually …

Gifts for my step brothers kids I haven't met? 
My step-brother and I are 2 months apart and were raised together from the time we were 6, but then we lost contact for about 4 years and in that time …

Ex inviting girlfriend to my son's graduation 
I do not want my exhusband to invite his girlfriend which caused the divorce to my sons graduation. Is this an acceptable request? Who is wrong?

Unwilling Christmas Gift Recipients 
When my husband and I first got married, he had a niece and ever since we said I do... both sides of our family have been adding nieces and nephews at …

xmas giving 
do i give my son 200.00 dollars for christmas plus a gift and give his wife a gift. (a very nice one at that) or do i give the 200.00 dollars addressed …

Invitation to invite someone to dinner 
Have a Friend who is alone and her son is in California and her Daughter is some where in the east coast . She will be alone on Christmas Day. So I thought …

A gift for brother's wife out of obligation??? 
Do I HAVE to buy my brother's wife an individual Christmas gift? We are sending them a fruit gift box & have also purchased him a gift certificate to …

Christmas presents 
My son's in laws live with him. They are from China, don't speak any English and they all live in Wisconsin. I live in Florida. I am sending Christmas …

Shower Etiquette 
My selfish, spoiled daughter-in-law expects me to pay for an expensive baby shower. I live out of town so the mother is making arrangements at a good …

Out of town wedding 
My husband's nephew is getting married and lives in a different state. I have been invited to the bridal shower, do I have to go?

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Nephew or nephew-in-law 
In my experience, one refers to a parent's sibling's spouse "uncle" or "aunt". One would say, "this is my aunt Mary", even were she married to my mother's …

hostess gifts for a co hosted party 
do you bring a hostess gift for each host of a co-hosted party or the hostess that is using her house

Christmas Gift for Fiancee 
Do I spend the same amount on Christmas gifts for my daughter's fiancee, as I do her.

is a relative required to attend a baby christening during a work week 
is a relative required to attend a baby christening during a work week

Should I invite HER in laws? 
For the last few years, we've spent Christmas Day at my cousin's house because her mother in law and step father in law come from out of state. That's …

Great Nieces and Nephews 
I'm stuck on whether I should start buying gifts for all occasions to my new great nieces and nephews. I have stopped buying for my nieces and nephews …

Do I still send gifts to his mother? 
My gay friend and I are not really friends any more, I have always loved his mother and sent generous Christmas gifts to both of them. Do I not send her …

christmas gift for siblings girlfriends? 
My husband's brother has been dating a girl for a couple months. Are we obligated to buy her a gift for Christmas? His sister has been dating her girlfriend …

Help Me 
Do you still go out with a planned night with friends even though your girlfriend cannot go?

gifting the wrong individuals? 
I stumbled across your site when looking for some gift etiquette advice. Here's one for you: My husband and I were given a gift for Christmas a year …

Everyone on team invited to party but me 
I am on a sports team, and one of the team members is having a party for team members as well as others. She used Facebook to invite everyone, but did …

Engagement card  
To whom is a card of congratulations sent for an engagement announcement. The Bride to be only or should it include her fiancee as well??

Ms. Judy C. Day 
I really would like an answer to this issue which keeps coming up - If I have a guests or as most recently happened at Thanksgiving guests who crashed …

Engagement Party  
My husband and I are hosting an engagement party for our daughter and her fiance on December 29th. I am trying to figure out the proper way to suggest …

Do you announce a birth at your wedding ? 
Hello My fiancee and I are getting married. It will be our 2nd for the both of us. I wanted this one to be simple. Just us.With that being said. We …

death 
Mother of brother in law passed away - what monetary is appropriate

Christmas Gifts: Do they have to be of equal value? 
Do my Christmas gifts have to be equal in number and worth for my son-in-law and my other daughter, Becca's live-in boyfriend? The boyfriend and Becca …

Ex Husbands 
I have a relative that insists on inviting my ex husband to events....saying she is doing it for my children who are adults with children of their own. …

Wedding etiquette for grandmother of the bride? 
Hello, can you tell me if their are ways for the grandmother of the bride to participate in planning a wedding? I have been asked by an 80+ year old friend …

New Neighborhood 
My husband and I are new to our neighborhood. We have met several neighbors and would like to do something nice for them for Thanksgiving. We don't want …

VISITING GIRLFRIENDS FAMILY 
MY SON IS GOING OUT OF TOWN TO VISIT HIS GIRLFRIENDS FAMILY SHOULD HE TAKE A GIFT FOR THE HOSTESS

son in laws parents 
Should I have invited my son in laws parents to dinner? They live out of town and are visiting my daughter and her husband. Since the kids work, I thought …

Torn!!! 
If my wife is not invited to Thanksgiving and my grandparents are 88 and 92!!! Go or don't go???

visit ex boyfriends house 
Is it appropriate for my 17 year old daughter to go to her exboyfriends house after only 1 week to attend his 11year sisters birthday party?

Chaperone 
What is the proper age of a chaperone of a 17 year old couple?

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Combo Birthday invite  
I am having a combo birthday for my two girls ages will be 3 and 6. My 6 yr old is in school now and will have her own friends at the party however, some …

Baby shower invitations 
I have a baby shower I am giving on December the 15th. It will be Christmas themed. How soon should I get the invites out? It gets really busy during the …

Want to do the right thing 
Years ago, I'd given a girlfriend a diamond/sphire ring. We broke up, she got married. Today, she gave me the ring back. Is it okay, for me to give …

3yr wedding anniversary dinner party: to gift or not to gift? 
A couple I know eloped 3 years ago. They're hosting a 3 yr wedding anniversary dinner this weekend. My question is: Should I bring a gift? Thanks …

TOO LOUD!!! 
Hello, I have a girlfriend I've known over 30 yrs. She's now a retired 2nd grade teacher. Every time we get together for a visit or lunch out etc. Her …

Baptism gift or not? 
We are close friends of the grandparents of the baby being baptized, but are not invited to the ceremony. However, we have been invited to have dinner …

Am I wrong not to invite my sister in law over to a house party? 
My brother and sister in law recently separated about a month ago and aren't speaking to each other. They've been together for 17 years, so she is family …

wedding gift for parents of the groom ?? 
Hi, I'm friends with a couple who's son is getting married this weekend. I only met their son once or twice and I never met his future wife. I'm not …

Receipt of an Overly Generous Gift 
My wife and I helped a friend and neighbor load and move some items on their moving day for about 4 hours. We were happy to help as they were in a pinch …

newly dating 
I have been seriously dating this man for 3 months, his grandmother just died last night. I have not met any of his family yet, what is appropriate for …

Grand mother 
I have two Grandkids getting baptized on sat ,1 yr. lil girl and a 4yr. Lil boy. What gifts should I get them if any ?

Wedding gift etiquette  
How much should I spend on a wedding gift?

Wedding Invites - proper etiquette inviting adult cousins  
I have three adult sons (30, 27, and 19)all still living home. My cousin's son is getting married. Only my 30 y.o. son was invited and was not given a …

Baby shower invitations 
Is it OK to send one invitation to an adult child and her parent living in the same household?

Is it necessary to respond to an oral statement? 
My spouse of 17 years and I have an ongoing argument when he makes general statements and I don't respond to them. I do respond when questions or my opinion …

Bridal Party for Lesbians 
How long do I have to stay it's my daughter's wedding ?I think it's the first party really and I want to show support but she's marrying a woman that's …

How to sign my baby shower card to my step daughter whos having a baby? 
I have seven grandchildren of my own. My husband has always been called Papa by all of them. My adult children love my husband, as he does them. My husbands …

Is it appropriate for an adult to announce her own graduation? 
I am 45 years old, married with six children, working full time, and I just completed my Masters degree (with a 4.0 gpa). I am participating in the graduation …

Party invite  
I was invited verbally about two weeks ago by 1 host of a 4 host party to an upcoming party. He told my husband and myself to save the date. I just found …

shower 
my daughter and i are giving a baby shower for a relative, do we ask my son's live-in girlfriend to help give the party?

Engagement Announcement 
My son wants to include 2 people in his wedding engagement announcement that he calls grandma & grandpa. They are not related to him but he has always …

How do I answer how many grandchildren I have 
We have 9 living grandchildren and we lost one grandchild when he was 3 days old. What do we say when someone asks how many grandchildren we have? 9 or …

Miss Sofiya Kvasha 
Is there any special wording for a formal/informal tea party invitation?

Ex-Step Nephew's Viewing  
Is it ok to attend ex step nephew's viewing

Ok to join a group or not? 
When there is a particular group of friends that get together for coffee every week on the same day of the week, at the same time, same place. In the past, …

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gift giving etiquette 
Do I have to buy christmas gifts for my son's girlfriend? They live together and have 5 boys.

Keeping old photos??? 
What is appropriate when it comes to keeping old photos and momento's of our past (not referring to family photos)??? While going through my closet this …

Cinderella not Invited to the Bridal Shower 
I have two sisters and a mother. One of my sisters and my mother are hosting a bridal shower for my cousin who is my mother's sister's daughter. I did …

jilted by brother 
brother, whom i don't see much, but talk to when i do see him has kids get togethers and parties, and never invite his nieces and nephews who are the same …

Afternoon Tea 
Is it proper to wear gloves all through a afternoon tea?

Guest inviting guest to my home 
I have a friend whom comes to my home for parties and she always ask me if she can invite her new friends, who I do not know if they can come as well. …

Contact neighbors 
I am hosting a wedding with a DJ playing, Saturday in September at 5pm until 11:30pm My question is should i send a letter to my neighbors informing …

Addressing a Birthday Invitation 
How do I address a birthday invitation to my nephew who is dating someone with a son. I want to invite her and her son as well?

birthday party dinner at restaurant, who pays? 
Our brother-in-law is having his wifes 50th birthday party at a restaurant. Who pays for dinner? If the guests are expected to pay for their own dinner, …

baptism invitation 
Dear Miss Manners, I have a friend that asked my to be a god mother to her daughter, we have been friends since high school and maintained a close …

Family Portrait 
My fiance's son wants to go to a studio to have a family portrait done with my fiance and her ex for the his son's Christening. How should I respond …

Response to hostess gifts 
What is the proper response when you give a party and receive hostess gifts? Should a person send thank-you notes in return for the gifts? I held …

party gift 
i missed my friend's son's college graduation party. should i send a gift?

invitation to wedding far away in india 
a coworker sent an invitation card for her wedding in India to everyone at work. She never invited me to her house party in town. Looks like she just …

Baby Shower Etiquette 
I have received an e-line baby shower invitation for my son's girlfriend's, daughter's expected new baby. The girlfriend has been living with my son …

Is it proper to give gifts to people who help at Birthdays? 
My sisters and I gave my mother a 75th surprise birthday party. In the invitation we asked that in lieu of gifts, please share a photo or endearing …

Changes of Address 
What is the proper response when you receive a formal change of address announcement from your nephew?

anniversary during a separation 
My husband and I have very recently separated. our 19th anniversary is coming up,and I don't know if I should say or do anything. Could you please …

Who pays? 
If a couple invite's you to dinner and during the dinner you find out it is their wedding anniversary, who should pay the restaurant bill?

Starting a short e-mail with Dear  
Is it appropriate for a co-worker to start a short e-mail with Dear?

Obese friends of teen children 
My daughter has a friend who I have seen grown from a large to obese over several years. Recently she stopped in to visit. She and my daughter sat …

How much is too much? 
My son and his fiancee are marrying next spring. She is a lovely person and we are delighted to have her join our family. The very night that our …

who pays 
our grandson and his wife have invited us to a show and dinner that includes his wife, her parents, his parents and ourselves. it is her parents wedding …

ex daughter in law photos with infants 
Is it polite to still have my ex daughter in laws pictures up if they are photos of my grandchildren with her when my son and her were still together. …

What should I d when I'm not invited to my grandson's Baptism because of my former spouse?  
My step daughter called and said that my husband and I and the rest of his family would not be invited to her son's Baptism because of hard feelings …

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Uninvited wedding guest 
An invitee to a wedding returned the reply card with the question..." if I bring my three children (all three were invited), but ask two of them not to …

Should I invite my boss to my pool.bbq party? Co workers are coming. 
Should I invite my boss to my pool.bbq party? Co workers are coming, along with former employees of his who left the company on mildly unpleasant terms. …

Baby Shower RSVP 
I provided a guest list to my cousin for the purpose of throwing me a baby shower (she offered). At a week prior to the event, my cousin informed me …

graduation party for non graduate 
We've been invited to a graduation party for twins. One graduated one didn't and may or may not try to complete his education. I'm sure he wouldn't …

Addressing wedding envelopes for the family only (without girlfriends) 
I addressed wedding envelopes to "The Stewart Family" and the "Rombard Family" assuming the recipients would understand that I only want to invite …

In memoriam Brother in wedding party 
My fiance and I are getting married in January, 2013, which will be 2 years since his brother passed away. My fiance doesn't have close friends, and …

How much money to give your son for his 2nd marriage (her first) 
My son will be getting married (his 2nd) to someone (her 1st) She is from Canada (he from MN) They are getting married at the court house in Canada. …

Checking the brand of someone's china 
Is it OK to pick up someone's china to see what the brand and pattern are?

Wording of Invitation - Two Doctors 
Looking for wording on a wedding invitation. While one of the bride's parents is an attorney (as are the bride and groom), both of the groom's parents …

India Etiquette 
I was wondering how to word a thank you note to a family from India. Their note read: Congratulations from Samaira(their 1 year old), Shiprah(the …

Open House Invitation etiquette for grandmothers 
My grandson graduated from high school recently, and his mother (my daughter) wants me to invite some of my friends to his open house/graduation party. …

BAPTISM QUESTION 
WE ARE INVITED TO A BAPTISM FOR A CHILD OF A COUPLE WHO ARE CASUAL FRIENDS. WE CANNOT ATTEND. ARE WE OBLIGATED TO SEND A GIFT ANYWAY?

graduation invitation wording 
We did not have a high school graduation party for our son and now am planning a college graduation party. What wording would be appropriate on invitations …

Wake 
Is it appropriate to go to the wake for the mother of a girl I went to school with 30 years earlier? I didn’t know the mother and I just saw the girl …

Graduation gift 
If you do not receive a graduation announcement from a relative should you still send a gift? Other family members received an announcement. I think …

Graduation party gift giving in return 
How do you handle this. My daughter graduated .. we planned a party sent out invitation to people.. some of who as well had children graduating.. …

Boss Employee relations etiquette!! 
Is it proper for a new supervisor to give her cell# and home# to male employees married or single? I wouldn't!

wedding etiquette 
my co-worker is collecting money for her daughters wedding in Asia country.There is no bridal shower because her daughter lives there.No wedding invitation …

Gifts for the graduate 
My son graduated from high school. He attended public school for 11 years and finished his diploma though on-line classes. He finished all the requirements …

wording on an invitation 
I received an invitation from two hostesses. The wording was; "join us" in celebrating a birthday. We'll meet at a restaurant (for a meal) followed …

grandson's first communion and baptism 
what should the grandmother wear to her 10 yr old grandson's baptism and first communion? The Catholic baptism is on a Sat at 11AM. Then we'l go to …

How much 
My co-worker invited me to her son's high school graduation party. I don't have any money to give as a gift. Should I attend?

Dad's girlfriend, thanks but no thanks! 
Help! Everytime we want to invite my dad over to spend time with his grandchildren he always brings along his crazy girlfriend. We have made numerous …

50th wedding anniversary 
Is it proper for us (the children) to host a 50th wedding anniversary reception if our parents, through their marriage, have separated but always gone …

Should grandparents give new grandbaby a gift? 
Just wondering...my husband and I are going to be grandparents! We gave a gift to our soon-to-be grandbaby at a shower. Should we give her another …

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Can I ask my mother-in-law not to honk? 
My mother-in-law moved to the Dallas area almost a year ago. A couple of months ago, she began walking her dog in the park by our house nearly every …

who's first? 
Dear Miss Manners, Who should be served first at dinner?..Out of town guests or children, if you are at another family members house? Yours, …

spoiled food 
A friend brought over a gift basket filled with expired cheese, crackers, sausage..etc. Do I let him know or let it go?

Etiquette for High School graduate announcement 
Is it proper to send an announcement card to father and his new wife? Daughter did not want her father's new wife to attend to graduation. She wrote …

do I get a 2nd bridal shower gift? 
My son and his future daughter in law are already using their bridal shower gift we bought them (pot and pan) because they moved in together and needed …

Medical School Graduation Ceremony 
I am the Mother of the young man graduating from Medical School. I would like to know the proper attire for an afternoon graduation.

Babies without daddies 
After many years searching for a partner, I find myself in a position where I need to have a child (without the man), or give up. So I'm considering …

engagement parties 
should one be exspected to buy a family member an engagement gift when we will be buying a wedding gift?

address requested 
Our great niece is getting married,and her mother (our niece) has asked me to provide our adult grandson&wife home address!My grandson & wife donot …

Retirement party 
I have been a self employed Housekepper for 8 years. I'd like to have a "retirement" party so I can tell all my clients goodbye at once. Is that tacky? …

etiquette for dating a family member's ex 
Is it ever ok to date a cousin's ex-wife? they divorced nearly 20yrs ago. They both have moved on. She had been in a serious relationship for approx. …

gift or not for MBA grad 
Am I obligated to buy a gift for my nieces MBA graduation. There is no party and I've already given her a gift for her college graduation

Touching one's hair 
I recall a rule of thumb being to never touch one's hair in public. I know it is a rule in regard to being seated at a table; but isn't it also a …

How to word seating of the Mother's, when the bride's mom is escorting her daughter down the aisle 
What is the proper wording for a bulletin to list Seating of the Mothers, when only the Groom's Mother will be seated and the bride's Mother is walking …

Addressing sister in law's HUGE mistake? 
Our family was planning a big combo birthday for my son brother and father, each turning 10,40,60. Been planning it for a couple of years now. We had …

jackie 
Can I just attend the luncheon for a first communion without going to the mass?

Wedding Shower Invitation 
Should my nephew's fiancee be invited to the shower of his cousin?

RSVP  
If I respond in person to the bride is it still necessary to send back RSVP card?

Graduation party-who to invite and who not? 
My daughter is graduating from law school and we are going to have a party. We know we will invite family and close friends but my husband wants to …

silverware layout 
silverware layout order

presents 
What should an Aunt give for a med. school grad?

Adult cousin graduating 
I have an adult cousin (30 years old)that is graduating from college after taking a voluntary absence to start his own business. My question is what …

Graduation announcement to? 
Is it okay to send an announcement to someone who also has a graduate?

Discussing social plans when everyone is not included 
There's one woman who will discuss in details social plans and outings in which I am not included. She will show photos of these outings to me and …

co-hosted First Communion party 
I have been invited to a first communion party for 2 children that is co-hosted by each child's mother. I am friends with the 1 mother and an acquaintance …

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Graduation Announcement Etiquette 
I have read that you should not include the graduation party invite in with the announcement. Is this such a big deal? We will be sending some of …

awkward ex-husband 
I'm planning a family dinner out for my daughter's college graduation. I'm remarried and have been for three years; my ex-husband does not want my …

Unwanted Passenger 
Dear Miss Manners I am seeking your advice about a woman I barely know but has recently joined a moms group I am a member of. She does not drive …

Bridal luncheon 
Do bridal luncheon guests bring hostess gifts to the event in North Carolina?

"Money" only Bridal Shower 
How appropriate is it to ask for money only for a Bridal Shower and Wedding gift. The couple have lived together for 10 years and this will be their …

Not exactly crystal clear!! 
I have a number of good friends whom I entertain in my home at Christmas formal dinner. A couple of years ago these friends got together financially …

rsvp date 
Should I call people if they do not respond to baby shower by rsvp date?

To go or Not to go? That is the question! Lingerie/bridal shower dilemma! 
2 days ago I was invited to a Bridal/Lingerie Shower of a friend's daughter which is been hosted by the friend's client who is not the maid of honor. …

thanksgiving dinner 
If I invite my family and we go out to a restaurant, do I need to pick up the tab for Thanksgiving?

Sending out Bridal Shower invitations 
Hi, I need to know when to mail out Bridal Invitations. The Bridal Shower is May 19, I need to have a number of guests by May 5th. Some guests …

how much money for a christening? 
For a family of 4, how much money should we give for a baby christening?

Wedding RSVP Etiquette 
For a Wedding, I am doing coligraphy writing on the envelopes, on the RSVP instead of the standard M______ could I prefill the name for them?

Out of town guests 
Hi, For a bridal shower, who really gets invited. Beside family and friends of the two families. Do you invite wifes of the husbands that work …

my wife's friends are friends with her ex 
OK, so I'm checking out Facebook, and I see that 2 of my wife's friends hosted a party. I see from the photos on facebook that my wife's ex was …

Grandfather & Step Grandmother  
What to get a 15 year old Grandson for a Baptism Gift? What is the proper etiquette for this event gift,Dress etc.?

Bridal shower/Graduation from Medical School 
I'm hosting a bridal shower for my daughter-in-law, on May 19,2012. She is graduating from medical school on May 20th, 2012. What should the invitation …

Paying for dry cleaning when duvet cover soiled 
While visiting a cousin, my husband got blood on a duvet cover. I offered to pay for the dry cleaning but was told that was not necessary as they …

Voice Lesson interruption 
My daughter has a weekly private voice lesson at school with her choir director. The girl that is scheduled to come in for the next voice lesson always …

wedding shower 
Is it proper to host a wedding shower for a couple who went to the jp and if yes who should host it?

greetings 
When walking into an office who says good am first? wimer52@zoominternet.net

Gift Certificate 
We received a gift certificate to a very nice and somewhat expensive restaurant from our daughter. Knowing this is a restaurant that our friends have …

wedding shower 
is it o.k. to put greenback wedding shower, when the couple already has a house and living together, they have everything?

Proper attire 
I was invited to an award presentation, cocktails and dinner and the invitation stated "cocktail attire is suggested." How should I dress?

Should you still be able to meet up and stay contact with the opposite sex while in a relationship? 
Should you still be able to meet up and stay contact/friends with the opposite sex while in a monogomas relationship?

What to say when someone asks how much I spent on something 
I got an expensive ring from my husband for Christmas. His coworkers & mom have all asked how much it costs & made comments about being rich.

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holidays 
Should the children call the parent for the holidays or should the parent call the children?

Wedding invite 
I accidentally asked someone's address for my wedding through Facebook and I don't want to invite them what do I do?

Should you pick up the phone when you have company? If so, how do you handle the phone call? 
My brother called to ask me how I was doing, as I had been recently sick. I had company at the time, so I told him I was feeling better, but couldn't …

Gifting for Teen Baptism 
What would be an appropriate gift for a teen boy and girl baptism? One of the teens is a grandchild...

constant complaining, or always lying 
When my son first married her, we found her very rude. Example: while visitng in their home, she removed a glass of tea from my hand, placed first …

Hostess gift? 
I'm going to a dinner party where there will be 10 guests, I would like to bring a small gift for the hostess. My gift will be a box of chocolates, …

Which R.S.V.P. abomination is more appropriate? 
Hoping to prevent hard feelings. I realize this is a case of the lesser of two evils so, which is slightly less appalling? -To R.S.V.P. to event, …

Is it rude to request that my son not invite his father (ex-husband, was abusive and mostly deadbeat dad) to rehearsal supper, My husband and I are paying?  
My ex-husband didn't work until my son turned 18 and we got not a penny from him for seven years in back child support. Luckily I had filed through …

Proper time to schedule a dinner. 
My husbands family drive me nuts. They decide when we are going to eat. If we go to Mel's house, she will say come at 5:30. She doesn't begin to cook …

Restaurant rudeness??? 
A group of us went to a restaurant for lunch on Sunday. We were the only occupied table in the restaurant for most of the time we were there, and …

How to tell someone that they are hurting your feelings? 
Hello, I am a dedicated Vegetarian, since the age of 10, I am now in my 20's & it seems that many people think it okay to mock me during get togethers, …

inviting guests to your home 
What is the right response when guests ask what they should bring?

Calling people 
We go to a doctor and his staff insist on calling our home as early as 7:15 am to confirm appointsments. I was taught that calling someone before 8:00 …

Double Bridal Shower 
I am attending a double bridal shower and don't know the other guest of honor. Do I need to purchase a gift for her?

Is it appropriate for a wedding engagement to last for more than two years? 
Is this inappropriate especially where the couple is still in school but they know that on completion of there 4 year degree for example, they intend …

My sister-in-law chews with her mouth open. 
When my husband, daughter and I go to his parents for lunch every weekend, I sometimes catch my daughter (6) accidentally chewing with her mouth open. …

Elbows on the Table 
I have a young man of 15 who has argueed with me about resting ones arm at the elbow on the table to bring his fork to his mouth. I am from the Deep …

Must we invite a friend's new girlfriend to our wedding? 
We are getting married in six weeks. A couple we have known for several years recently went through a divorce and though things were amicable, he wanted …

Asking Prospective Godparents 
How do I formally ask potential Godparents to the baptism?

Brother has reniged on a decision causing a dilemma. 
We have our niece and nephew visit us every year. This year our 17 year old niece asked if her boyfriend could come along and her parents (my sister …

Wording for RSVP to formal wedding invitation 
We received a formal wedding invitation and want the wording for a correct and equally formal response.

thoughtless gift 
My 8 year old daughter received 2 cheap, thoughtless gifts from one of her best friends. Not only that, one of the gifts was a necklace the friend …

When does a young adult get a date option? 
We have just been invited to my niece's bat mitzvah. My son who is twenty has been dating someone for almost two years. Everyone in the family is …

When do you mail the wedding invitation? 
When do you send the invite when you already sent the save the date?

Who should receive graduation announcements? 
My daughter who is graduating from college in August is the youngest grand daughter in my family. Consequently, all of her cousins are now adults living …

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Anniversary Party Gift 
My husband and I were invited to a 50 wedding anniversary party, the RSVP says "no personal gifts." I was wondering if that meant they would accept …

Cell phones 
Should cell phones be banned from the classroom?

Am I right to feel hurt...and where do I go from here? 
Dear Miss Manners, My son's fiancee is having her bridal shower in 2 weeks, which is being hosted by family. As the mother of the groom, I had …

Are thank you notes a thing of the past? 
Over the years, I have changed from buying Christmas gifts to making them, and that means hours of baking. Last year I sent about 12 relatives and …

Dealing with flatulence? 
Sometimes, especially after a good meal, I feel the need to pass gas. At times it occurs before I can excuse myself from the table. Also at home, …

High School Graduation Announcement Etiquette 
My daughter is graduating from high school, and I want to send announcements out. Is proper etiquette to include a note about my daughter's plans …

Can bride/graphic designer design her shower invitations? 
Hello, I am getting married soon and I am a graphic designer. I designed my own wedding invitations. My fiance's cousin is throwing a shower for me …

Graduation Etiquette Question 
My son is graduating, my husband and I are no longer together. I asked him if he could contribute to the dinner after the ceremony he said he could …

Graduation get together 
We are having a graduation get together at a resturant mostly for family for our son. We are providing the cake & ice cream. But the guests will be …

Does one sign the inside of preprinted Graduation invitation? 
My son is graduating the end of May. The invitations were ordered thru salesperson at the school. They are pre printed. Does he sign at the bottom? …

Bridal Shower 
I and all my co worker's (15 total) were invited to a bridal shower for a co worker I don't know well or am friends with. I am not invited to the wedding. …

Attending X-Husbands Brother's Funeral 
I was married for 40 yrs and divorced my husband. He remarried a young girl and I want to attend his brothers funeral out of town. Should I go? The …

High School Graduation Announcement - can it include mention of College enrollment and scholarship? 
My son is graduating High School. When I send his graduation announcements and party invitation, would it be rude for me to include a statement like …

Brother of the Groom 
My brother's fiance has a terrible relationship with her family. He has asked me to witness his wedding at the justice of the peace but does not intend …

What to do/say when you are told a friend has a terminal disease 
Our office just received news that our boss' wife has ALS. We are concerned but don't know what is appropriate. Do we send flowers, cards, what? …

Gifts and Money 
After a very trying week at work I anonymously bought and distributed boxes of candy to some co-workers in the office as a "keep up your spirits" kind …

How to contact you? 
I will like to know how can we contact you to schedule a class for children?

Is 30 miles too far for a baby shower? 
I offered to host a baby shower for a very close friend. The problem is, I live about 30 min away from her and most of the people on her guest list. …

Medical Assistant 
Working in a Central Triage area of a large medical firm, should the caller be addressed as "baby", honey...?

Party gifts 
I am attending a party for which the invitation states, "no gifts please." It sounds ridiculous to ask but should I bring a small token of the celebration …

Can I Wear a Blush Colored Shirt
to a Wake?
 
I bought a blush short sleeve dressy shirt and want to wear it under a black suit jacket with black pants. Is it appropriate?

Date Etiquette Situation 
I was invited to a party with some people I did not know well by someone I was dating when one of my dates friends got so drunk that he was vomiting …

Bridal Shower Etiquette 
My future daughter in law recently had a lingerie shower given to her by her attendants. (She gave them a guest list on the approval of her mother) …

Help with table manners of a friend  
Dear Ms. P Manners, I desperately need your advice. I met a guy a few weeks ago who I really like. But a suddenly have a problem. This past week …

bad to the bone 
Re eating a bone-in steak at an upscale restaurant. When done with knife and fork, may one pick up the bone and eat the meat directly from it? Thank you, …

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On my wedding invitation I put my parents' names (they are paying for the wedding). I also put my fiance's mother's name on the invitation. He does not …

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