Birthday party ettiquette

by Sally
(Redwood City Ca.)

I have a friend who every year gives herself an expensive birthday party at a restaurant and she expects each person to pay for himself. If she is hosting a party shouldn't she pay for the guests?

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Party RSVP Options
by: Ms P Etiquette

Hello Sally~

This is an interesting question and one that surfaces frequently. To review:
Your friend chooses an expensive restaurant and asks you to attend with the understanding that you will pay your own check. You have some options.

1. Tell your friend you would love to help her celebrate her birthday but the cost of the celebration is not in your budget.

2. Let your friend know that you are not comfortable being asked to be a participant in her expensive birthday dinner but would be delighted to treat her to a reasonably priced dinner in a different restaurant.

3. Simply decline the invitation when it arrives.

You see where I am going with this. Just be polite and kind. She must believe you are as excited as she is about her birthday arrangements, so the only way to make a difference is to let her know how you feel.

Ms Practical Etiquette

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