death of married son

by Ruth Cash Neely
(Spartanburg, S.C.USA)

I know my married son is dying of cancer. He has a wonderful wife and mother of six of my grandchildren. However she is very controlling of my son's privacy now and I am so afraid I don't know what my rights are as his mother at this time. I certainly don't want to has a family upset, but I do want to a part of the family at the funeral. Thank you for any advice.

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by: Ms P Etiquette

Hello Ruth,

It must be so very difficult to watch your son dying this way. I am so very sorry you have this challenge in your life.

His wife is entitled to direct this ending in her own way and most likely, these are your son's wishes as well. From your inquiry, I gather you are all on good terms, so please just ask your daughter-in-law what she is planning, letting her know that you support whatever she decides but you wish to be a part of his funeral/memorial service in whatever capacity she designs. This is appropriate and should not add to the burden you are both carrying in your hearts.

Ms Practical Etiquette

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