Do we include all grandchildren in the gift?

by Elisabeth

My husband and I would like to give our mothers a grandmother's necklace for Christmas. I have three children from a former marriage and we have one together. His sister has a son, my brother has a daughter, and my other brother has a step-daughter.

I want to represent all grandchildren on the jewelry, but my husband thinks this is odd since we are not collaborating with our siblings on the gift.

What is appropriate?

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Grandmother's Necklace
by: Ms P Etiquette


The children represented on the grandmother necklace should be your children. I assume these necklaces will be custom made for each grandmother? Your 4 children would be on the necklace you give to your own mother.
If your husband's mother considers your three kids from your previous marriage as her grandchildren, then they can be included on the gift for his mother along with your mutual child.

I agree that it is inappropriate for you to include the children of your siblings unless it is a whole family undertaking.

Thank you for this thought provoking inquiry.

Ms Practical Etiquette

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