Donations instead of gifts?!?

by Nicole
(Louisville ms us)

We are having a reception for my husbands parents 50th wedding anniversary in a few months. They lost their only other child, Susan, a little less than two years ago. She was an educator, with a very positive influence on the students she taught. After her death our family set up a scholarship fund in her name to be awarded to one child in need each year. My question to you is would it be appropriate to ask for donations to made to her scholarship fund instead of gifts. If so then how or what would be the proper way to word or approach the guest.

Thanks so much!

Nicole G

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by: Ms P Etiquette

Dear Nicole,

Please give my warm wishes for a glorious celebration to your husband's parents. What a wonderful milestone!

Asking for donations and/or gifts is a delicate business and sometimes depends upon how well you know your guests. Having said that, I will tread lightly here. If you are sending out printed invitations requesting an RSVP, you can include a separate note card asking for the donation instead of gifts. Not having it printed on the invitation implies it is a request if they wish to participate. You might say, "if you wish to mark this 50th anniversary with a gift, we ask that you consider a donation to ........ instead". That way you can include the separate card only in the invitations where you feel it is appropriate.

I hope you find this helpful. Good luck!

Ms Practical Etiquette

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