Family Portrait

by Shawn
(Las Vegas, NV)

My fiance's son wants to go to a studio to have a family portrait done with my fiance and her ex for the his son's Christening. How should I respond to this. My fiance and I have been together for 3 1/2 years. Her son and his wife are having a baby blessing for their son and has requested his mother (my fiance) to take a family portrait with her Ex and her son's family. I feel totaly disrespected that my fiance would even run this by me as if it is no big deal. I have heard of wedding pictures with both parents in the pictures.... but a family portrait for a baby blessing? So is it fair to expect that for Baby's first Christmas another family portrait should be taken. How about baby's first birthday another family portrait. When does the family portraits stop. IM not talking pictures I talking about professional studio portraits that everyone must come together and take. Her adult children seem to have a problem with her moving on with her life and have not adjusted to her divorce from their dad. Am I wrong about feeling that a family portrait is a bit much for a baby blessing?

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by: Ms P Etiquette


As you point out, this is an issue larger than the current situation with the baby blessing photo. I suggest you and your fiance have an honest discussion involving your role within her family. It is unfair to both of you to proceed without a clear understanding and mutual agreement regarding your future together. If you cannot agree, then you both have decisions to make.

This is not an etiquette question until you know the foundation upon which the question is presented. Once you both agree to a blueprint for your future together, the question itself will most likely disappear.

Good luck,

Ms Practical Etiquette

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