Funeral question

by Miriam


My father-in-law recently passed away in another city. While there for the funeral, we heard from a handful of people by email and only very few called to express their condolences. I had emailed everyone I could think of to let them know what was going on. A few wives emailed me back but none of their husbands (our friends not just my friends) reached out to my husband.

My husband and I came home from the funeral expecting phone calls from the people who had emailed and even phonecalls from those who hadn't.
We haven't heard from any. My question is : is an email to the wife of the spouse considered enough these days? I feel it is impersonal in such matters.

Thank you for your time.

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Funeral Etiquette
by: Ms P Etiquette

Hello Miriam,

I am very sorry for your family's loss. Please extend my sympathy to your husband.

Practical etiquette directs us to extend very personal messages of sympathy along with offers of help to a friend's family who experiences a loss, especially a father or mother. Your friends did let you down. Perhaps they were not raised in families where respectful social behavior was taught. In any case, feeling hurt by this lack of caring is very understandable and this neglect only adds to the a parent passing. I hope you can let it go and move forward.

Ms Practical Etiquette

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