My son and his fiancee are marrying next spring. She is a lovely person and we are delighted to have her join our family. The very night that our son proposed, his fiancee asked if they could be married in the backyard of our lakefront home. We are pleased and glad to do this.
Her parents are victims of this very bad economy and have told her they will not be able to afford to help them with the wedding expenses. My husband and I have decided to cover most of the expenses as we do not want them to go into debt to have the wedding they want.
All this being said, how closely do we need to follow the "rules"of etiquette since so much of the responsibility is on our shoulders?