Multi-tasking while talking on phone

by Whixley
(Franklin, TN)

I have a dear friend of many years with whom I attended nursing school. She and her family moved to another state twenty years ago but we have maintained a terrific relationship. She returned to college and we agreed that because of her tight schedule that she would call me, but I would not call her fearing interrupting her sleep, study etc.

school is now done. We are equally busy. When she calls she always is multi-tasking- carrying laundry upstairs, dropping the phone, talking to others, etc. usually she is trying to do do at least three other things at the same time. We have talked about this and that it is annoying and make real conversation impossible. We only speak about once a month, if that.
Is this a case of a relationship outgrown? My goal is to maintain the friendship as I love her and value her wisdom, friendship and hearing about her life.

How should I handle this?

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by: Ms P Etiquette


Because you have already talked over the problem with your friend and she seems to be unable to have a quiet conversation, you have a couple options.

You can go on as you are, accepting that her behavior will not change. If you do this, you also must find a way to be gracious about it, not resentful.

Or tell her you cannot talk with her while she is doing other tasks, asking her to please call you when she has the time to talk because you value the relationship and want to stay in touch.

Good luck!
Ms Practical Etiquette

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