My wife and I attended a party recently and her boss asked us, off topic, if we ever had an open relationship. Aghast, I blurted out, "NO! NO!" My response apparently embarrassed my wife, who didn't have a problem with the question, and I ended up in the hot seat. I know I could have responded more calmly, so I apologized later to the boss and made it clear I'm uncomfortable talking about my private life with those I don't know well to wit they responded, "Sorry YOU felt uncomfortable," not even a "Sorry I made you feel uncomfortable." I'm feeling a bit resentful because I mostly apologized so my wife wouldn't feel awkward at work. Did I even need to apologize to the boss?