Ring of confusion in Milwaukee, WI

by Jennifer Foss
(Ringing with confusion)

My mother-in-law recieved a birthday gift from a friend who is 89. This lady never had children but was married 3 times with husbands who had children of his own. The husbands all are passed. She no longer speaks to the step children. The lady has 2 nieces she speaks to on and off maybe a few times a year. My mother-in-law goes over there several times a week. She even spends the night to keep her company. My mother-in-laws birthday was just celebrated and as a gift this lady gave her one of her former wedding ring set. Is this ok? Should we have it in writing to protect my mother-in-law when this lady passes? She does not want to put an argument over this or be accused of stealing. What is your advice?

Ringing with confusion in Milwaukee, WI

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Gift Giving
by: Ms P. Etiquette

Dear Jennifer,

Your mother-in-law must be a very special person to warrant this generous gift. How nice for her.

I agree that there should be some formal recognition of this gift from the 89 year old woman to your mother-in-law.

There are benefits for all involved when the process of gift giving at this level is clarified in writing in front of impartial witnesses. Please contact your family attorney for guidance. He or she will know exactly what needs to be done and the cost should be affordable. I believe it would be unwise for anyone related to your family to be involved in the resolution.

After the attorney wraps this up, your mother-in-law should be able to truly enjoy her gift.

Thank you for this most interesting question.

Ms. Practical Etiquette

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