Wedding gift etiquette for Niece-in-law
(Vancouver, BC, Canada)
Couple is in late 20's. Have bought condo together a few years ago and both working in good jobs financially.
Bride is my sister's step-daughter. I have known her for 10 years but mainly at family functions e.g. Christmas, cottage in summer. They feel closest to our "extended" family than other "extended" family members. Bride's mother diagnosed and died of cancer a few months before wedding.
I am not financially "fit" right now and my sister is saying they are asking for money to cover the plate (approx. $150.00) which is too much for me.
Is this the proper etiquette?
Can one give less without looking cheap?
If I only go to ceremony am I expected to give a gift? My sister says yes (approx. $60.00). I always thought anyone could go to ceremony and not give a gift. What is etiquette?
I have to respond by March 15 so your response is greatly appreciated.